u/SeaworthinessUsed474

I've been trying to understand what mental strength really means

Sometimes I feel like 1 overthink evervthing, worry too much about what people think, and keep looking for reassurance or advice before makina even simple decisions. I want to become more calm. confident. and emotionally independent.

For those of you who have genuinely become mentally stronger over the years:

▪︎What changed your mindset?

▪︎How did you stop overthinking?

▪︎How did you learn to handle criticism or uncomfortable situations?

▪︎How did you stop needing constant reassurance from others?

▪︎What daily habits actually helped you?

I'm not lookina for motivational auotes. I'd reallv like to hear from people who went through this themselves and what actually worked for them.

I’ve been trying to work on myself and feel mentally free. I keep telling myself that I should relax, be normal, talk naturally, listen to people, and stop overthinking every little thing.

But when I’m actually around people, I somehow fall back into the same pattern.

I get nervous or panicky. Instead of genuinely listening or asking questions, I just say “hmm”, nod, or give a short response. Later, I keep thinking about the conversation and wondering why I behaved that way.

Sometimes I even go into a conversation wanting to be more confident, but my mind suddenly goes blank. I know I want to listen and connect with the person, but in the moment, it feels like I’m just trying to get through the conversation.

Then the cycle repeats: overthinking → panic → awkward response → regret → promising myself I’ll do better next time.

I’m tired of feeling like I’m constantly monitoring myself instead of just being present.

Has anyone else experienced this? How did you break out of this cycle and actually feel mentally free and natural around people?