Is extreme anonymity a red flag or just online caution?
Hey guys. Just looking for outside perspective on a weird situation.
About a week ago, I met a girl here and we hit it off well that she asked to move over to telegram. But the second we got there she insisted on creating a "Secret Chat" because she doesn't trust anyone and prefers talking there. I thought it was a bit intense for someone I just met but I decided to play along and see how things go.
Fast forward a week, and it became completely exhausting. Like she refused to tell me anything personal. I barely knew anything about her. Not her name, where she lives, or even what her job was (she would talk about random office drama but refused to name her actual field or profession). Literally the only piece of data I had was her age.
Meanwhile, it felt totally one sided because I was being open and conversational. It felt less like a mutual connection and more like I was talking to a ghost or AI. I value sincerity and clarity so the constant secrecy just felt mentally exhausting and immature. So I just went ahead and cut this whole thing short and she immediately panicked and said she would stop keeping secrets, but I told her that wouldn't change things because it will only feel forced and unnatural. Now I’m sitting here with a bit of a guilt second guessing my actions and wondering if I was too harsh.
I never met someone like this before. So has any of you dealt with something similar ?