u/Select-Tie-610

So here is the story of my last 4 „first dates” via Bumble in last 2 weeks:

1. I booked a table at a restaurant, gave her a flower, took her coat, pulled out a chair for her, paid the bill etc.
2. SAME!
3. SAME!
4. I didn’t care. Coffee date, low effort conversation

Effect?

1. Ghosted
2. Ghosted
3. Ghosted
4. She text me first and want to see me again.

All of them had fun, loved the flowers (1-3) laughed and send me positive message after a date. However the difference is on the next day.

After 3 dates of making futile efforts I honestly didn’t care anymore. And it seems to work better. Maybe this is also about feeling more relaxed, who knows. Just wanted to share this crazy journey