The boxes of stuff from his place are still on my porch, after 6 days. I’ve peeked inside a few…some is stuff of mine I left there, some are gifts I gave him…☹️ An Easter goody bag unopened, a lamp I got him for Christmas, a frame I made for him…☹️ So, do I go through all this slowly, like a box a day, so as to not overwhelm myself, or rip the bandaid off and do it in one fell swoop?? (There’s about 6 boxes)
So, Saturday I received via the mail a box of my belongings, after being ghosted for a month. Tuesday I came home to find more boxes piled on my porch of the rest of my items, apparently dropped off during the day. I immediately tried to call, no answer, mailbox is full. I text, a brief one, expressing my hurt and outrage. It was read, but of course no reply. This was a 2 1/2 yr relationship, lots of downs, some ups, but oh so much anger, rage, gaslighting, silent treatments, etc etc. None of that makes it hurt less though. And that second group of boxes just about did me in, especially knowing that he went through the trouble to drop them off. That’s a special kind of cold. Thanks for some insight and supportive words.
I’ve been in toxic relationships before, but this latest one has been particularly difficult and soul sucking. We’d been in a relationship for about 2 1/2 years. We last got together at the beginning of April, and we had two weekends in a row that just felt horrible to me, he was reactionary, flew into rages, continually gave me the cold shoulder, gaslighting, just everything.
That week after we had seen each other, we texted, but he seemed more distant than usual. Once again, I was willing to lay all the nonsense aside, try this all again and go over his place on Saturday to help him out (he said he was having back problems). He said no, given everything which happened the previous weekend. Right…which he caused!!
So I just said okay, sent him a smiley and kiss emoji, and then…crickets. He ghosted me the whole month. Now, he has ghosted me before, but I don’t think for this long.
And then today, I get a huge box on my porch. The postage on it indicated it cost almost $100 to mail. It’s my clothes that were at his place and some other items. Wow. :-(
Just….wow.
I realize this might be a blessing in disguise, but right now, it just feels like a gaping wound of betrayal and hurt.
Supportive words appreciated.