u/SententiaClaraDeOvis

Dear Abigail,

I hope this letter finds you. You don't know me, but you changed my life.

I used to be an avid watcher of your videos about pilosophy on YouTube. Our interests have since drifted apart, with yous shifting from philosophy to sociology and activism (can't blame you, given the state of the world) and mine shifting from being all in my head to being more in touch with my physicality and embracing Buddhism as a practical philosophy. However, some of your words from years ago will always have a spot in my heart:

Your coming out video really hit me deep, years ago when you originally published it. That part about being tired and irritaded all the time and lashing out at loved ones, because "that job" is killing you. That described my life experience at the time so perfectly. It sent me on a journey of self discovery, thinking to myself well I'm not trans, but I need to find that thing in my life that is fundamentally wrong and not for me, so that I can get better

It took me a few years to figure it out. But your words about "getting a new job" and things getting better were a constant guiding light in all that time.

Fast forward to now. Turns out I actually am simply trans - and that's what it was all along - and in hindsight it doesn't seem like such a difficult puzzle to figure out about myself. I am quite bemused at myself for taking so long to admit that.

But I am finally at where Im meant to be at - and I do sleep a little better now and starting to like listening to that song on the radio.

People do congratulate me on how positive I am about my transition. But really I don't feel I deserve any praise for it. Of course I am happy. I am finally at where I'm meant to be, struggling the struggle I was made for.

So thank you again, Abigail. Your words were meant for me and just what I needed. It just took me a few years to fully get it.

Yours,

Clara

I just got myself a Suunto Race S - and while generally I like it, the sleep tracking is way off:

First night I used it, it woke me up with an "you've been sitting for too long" alert at 4:30. I turned on the do not disturb at night after that and that solved it.

But ever since then, it is grossly overstating my sleep time. There are nights when I know for a fact I was lying awake in bed for a long time, both in the evening and the early morning hours, even turning a4ound and watching youtube videos on my phone sometimes. But the watch keeps telling me I was sleeping through and even exceeding my sleep targets.

What's going on there? Am I using it wrong? Is there a way to calibrate it to my sleep patterns? Will it do that automatically and just needs time to do so? Or is it just not so accurate at distinguishing between sleep and lying awake (and sitting down)?