I 19F, He broke up with me saying "no future" but was the most loving boyfriend. How do I deal with this?
I m 19F in 3rd yr of engg. I don't even know how to start this. I'm writing this after crying for almost 2 days straight and I just need to get this out somewhere.
We were together for 1.5 years. The first 7-8 months felt like everything I ever wanted. he was so present, so loving, no big fights, no red flags. I genuinely thought we were solid. But somewhere after that I started feeling little things shifting. He seemed a bit distant, less initiated, something felt slightly off. I told myself I was overthinking. I didn't want to be "that girl" who creates problems where there are none. So I ignored it.
Yesterday he told me he doesn't feel it anymore. That we have no future together so it's better to end it now than drag it out later. He also said he tried that he genuinely tried to bring the feelings back but couldn't.
And I just... didn't see it coming. Not like this.
What's messing with my head the most is that he's already fine. Like genuinely fine. We're in the same college and still on Instagram and he texted me today just casually, like a friend. Said he's been keeping himself busy with work so it's not hitting him that hard. Meanwhile I can barely function.
How do you grieve someone who's already moved on before the relationship even ended? Did he fall out of love slowly while I was still completely in it? Was I the only one who was really there towards the end?
I have this constant urge to text him. To just hear his voice or see him once. We're in the same college but different departments and on mon we hv our last exam and after that clg will be closed for a month. I don't know how to face him. Do I meet him and talk it out on mon? Do I maintain distance? Do I just pretend everything's normal when nothing feels normal?
I know I need to heal. I know. But I don't even know where to begin when the person who hurt you is also the person you'd normally go to when you're hurting.
Has anyone been through something like this? How did you cope when the other person seemed completely unbothered? Please i really need ur perspective and advices