u/Several-Lifeguard-77

I'm an incoming graduate student from the US at Kings College, and I'm a little bit lost with all the bureaucratic stuff. I need to book a plane sooner rather than later to actually get to the UK, but I don't know when the actual time to move in is, although I know the course starts on October 1st. Does anybody know how/when I could find this out? i can specify my course if it's helpful...

I have finished all the other paperwork and documents, but I haven't received my VISA yet, so I don't know if that affects things. I know that I will only get assigned accommodations in early September, but I'm hoping I can find out when move-in is before then, because a flight then is going to cost like a million dollars

I have gotten zero emails since I submitted all the documents, and the time difference is such that I can only call between 1am and 8am, but I'm not really sure who to call and I really don't want to bother my prospective supervisor with this..

I came across this in the wild and I was rather confused by the construction. Why isn't it "je ne te veux pas"? Is the meaning at all different?

Je sais que la premiere construction est considerée comme correcte par l'Académie Française, et je croyais qu'elle était la seule construction possible, mais j'ai trouvé un article qui semblait suggérer qu'en français familier les gens ne accordent pas le verbe avec le nom relativisé (comme on le ferait en anglais, on ne dirait jamais "it's me who am happy"). Est-ce que c'est vrai? À quel point est-ce courant? Est-ce que c'est nouveau? Je suis surtout curieuse pour des raison linguistiques, ça impliquerait une structure très différente

Slightly facetious title; I'm 20F tested 149 FSIQ/157 GAI on the WISC, and I have never been diagnosed with autism or anything like that, nor really ever, until recently ish, thought that I might have it. It was never raised in my childhood, although I know it's underdiagnosed in girls.But it has been brought up to me several times since I started college. I have a lot of traits that, on the surface, present similarly, but I'm not convinced they are of the same etiology. On the one hand I feel like common comorbidities of profound giftedness can present similarly to autism, but on the other hand it does seem that an extremely high portion of people with IQs above 140 or so are diagnosed with autism, and I'm not sure if that's a problem with diagnostic criteria or if that is true for a reason. I'm just curious if other people have had similar experiences

I struggle a lot with eye contact even with people I'm close to (actually, I stare very intensely at people when they're talking about something I'm interested in (i.e. especially during lectures) but I am totally unable to look at the same people while I'm talking to them. I have a lot of social anxiety and I always had really severe trouble with forming and maintaining social relationships. People find me interesting or entertaining (maybe more as a specimen?) and try to befriend me and I just get overwhelmed and pathologically avoid them. I want friends but at the same time I don't because it feels like it places such an immense, intolerable obligation on you. I talk almost exclusively to the few people Im actually comfortable with (my parents, sister, and a few professors I'm close to). Any friendships in my peer group I do form are through forced proximity and don't usually last after I'm not in that situation of forced proximity. Part of the problem is in general I am often uninterested in talking about anything except my academic interests. I say weird or blunt things and do weird things that people find hilarious, I think they think I'm being serious, but I genuinely have a very tenuous grasp myself at this point on when I'm joking or playing something up and when I'm just being myself (I think maybe it IS what I'm authentically thinking but I'm saying it knowing it's weird to get a laugh?). I feel like I live my entire life as a character of some sort, although I only really make these jokes (?) in the classroom because it's the only place I really feel comfortable. The people that want to befriend me are almost universally those that I meet in class. I really get stuck in routine and struggle a lot with change or with any task outside my comfort zone (paperwork, taxes, etc) and create huge problems for myself by just totally avoiding and failing to do them. I will think about something every day for a year and still not do it. I'm starting a PhD at the top university in the world for my field, which I love, next fall and I'm not really excited because I'm just so scared of all the new people and the new things and being removed from everything that's familiar to me. I also tend to stutter and stammer a lot and say a lot of filler words like "I don't know" or "kind of" or "maybe" or "I guess." This kind of behavior seems to me like anxiety, not autism, but I'm not a psychiatrist and also I'm aware that maybe early social difficulties may have caused anxiety.

It's 4 am and I haven't slept and probably won't. I'm terrified I'm not going to be able to string a coherent sentence together. I'm not worried about passing, my thesis itself is really good and the thesis is what's important here, but I feel like I'm going to do an utterly terrible job responding to questions and explaining things and sound like an idiot and look back on it and cringe forever. I'm also worried I might potentially start crying midway though because I have zero emotional regulation without sleep. Any advice on how to help with brain fog? ibuprofen and caffeine is my go to