How to convince neurotypical superiors to be direct.
Hi,
When I make mistakes at work my supervisors and mentors will try to communicate correction with hints or emotional reactions which works for the other people somehow. I made errors last week and I am not sure what my supervisor gleaned was my intent, but she has been giving me a cold shoulder and short communication. She has also implied I am somehow less trustworthy. But this is a new job and I am bending over backward trying to please. I am making mistakes, but I am not trying to hurt or take advantage of anyone. I am just trying to learn. I haven't been able to pinpoint where this is coming from.
She hasn't said anything directly. Just started monitoring me closer and makes short curt comments with little detail. She stopped all small talk and smiling, but only with me. If I knew what she was upset about I would try and resolve it. But I have done something to make her think I wont be receptive.
I am sure this is my inability to understand subtle ques, or some misunderstanding I had of the rules. Or perhaps I did not say the right thing when criticized. I discovered a few months ago the phrase "My mistake" is NOT viewed as taking responsibility for a mistake, but instead as disregarding the concern. Maybe its something like that?
I am so confused. How do I approach her? How can I explain I struggle when people don't use direct language? What should I say to her to show her I am eager to resolve this?