u/She_E_Oof

Is it normal for flirting with women to not come naturally at first? 😭

I’m a late bloomer (I lowkey hate this phrase cause what does it even mean 🤣) and every time I talk to a woman I’m attracted to, I become… friendly. Like VERY friendly 😭

The thing is, I’m naturally a very friendly person and I’ve always had a lot of female friends. I barely even have male friends, so I do know how to talk to women comfortably. I can talk for hours, ask questions, make people feel comfortable, connect emotionally etc. That part comes naturally to me.

What doesn’t come naturally is turning that into something romantic/flirty.

I never know how to make it clear that I’m attracted to someone without feeling awkward or like I’m forcing it. I get nervous initiating or making my attraction obvious because I’m scared of making someone uncomfortable or embarrassing myself. Then later I realize the conversation probably came across completely platonic even though I was very attracted to her.

Now I’m spiraling wondering if I’m even into women because flirting doesn’t come naturally to me, even though I don’t want to date men at all.

Did anyone else experience this when they first started dating women? How did you learn to flirt/initiate without feeling fake or awkward?

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u/She_E_Oof — 2 days ago