Any other adoptees childless by choice?
Did anyone else opt out of being a parent?
My reasons:
Being a child was such a miserable, lonely, and painful experience. I thought that all childhoods were that way and wanted to spare another child the same.
I grew up in an abusive, alcoholic home. No self control taught, no self soothing, compassion, teamwork, sense of family, etc. I didn’t feel I had the tools to properly raise a child.
I didn’t want to subject another generation to my parents.
I didn’t know where I came from or my genetics. Closed adoption in ‘69. No real info until I was in my late 30’s.
I had a younger sibling that was an absolute monster. Sociopath. Violent. Attachment disorder, oppositional defiance disorder, fetal alcohol syndrome (also adopted.) Parents had no clue how to deal with her so they drank and beat us both. Home was absolute chaos. It made me terrified of what I could end up with as a parent.
Anyone else? Please chime in with your experience.