u/ShiftingSpectrum

I don't know if ranking is the right term, but for now it's the only term I can think of. I've been in relationships with 2 different poly people, and in my first I was more or less an equal partner (My partner had another IRL partner and an online partner) with the other metamours- the partner we shared treated us as equal priority. In my second poly relationship, the person I was with more or less told me I was a lower priority partner. Is that normal, or in retrospect was that a red flag?