Losing sexual attraction/getting the ick *after* having a relationship with someone.
30F, demisexual and polyamorous. I have two partners currently but am recently separated from my ex husband. I am demi in that I need that emotional connection but once I do I’m generally very sex positive/have a high libido although I’ve gone through periods in life where that was not the case.
One of my partners is a long time friend who I care about a lot and have been very attracted to and our sex life was great up until recently.
I have been struggling with some personal stuff surrounding sex which I am working on in therapy but part of it surrounds the idea of feeling obligated/pressured into sex because of some not great dynamics in my previous relationships.
Recently I have found myself being significantly less interested in sex with him and getting the “ick” when he behaves in usual ways to show affection/ask for sex. Like I saw him this weekend and we had sex one night and that was great but after that I just had no interest and just wasn’t into it and find myself becoming more frustrated about it even though I know it’s all in MY head and nothing to do with him.
Has anyone else lost sexual attraction after having developed it? How do you deal with this in a relationship?