u/Significant_City302

So long story short, my husbands plant he has been at for the last decade and a half is shutting down. We are given the option to transfer to another one of the companies plants. He is reserves so we have to be semi near an AFB as well. Ardmore OK has the plant and then a few hours away is a AFB. But I found another post here that now has me freaking out. I knew we needed to be on the North side near Plainview and Lone Grove. But now am worried even that is not good enough. We need to be within 30 minutes to an hour of Ardmore. I need honest recommendations. We will be coming from a semi decent city (which I am from a small town) but we would like to have a publixs or something similar nearby. We like the country with a short commute to the city.

I am trying to figure out if we pick Ardmore or go to North Carolina (which I know about because of my husbands plants HQ is there, so we have traveled there alot). I have a week to decide and that does NOT give me the time I need to accurately research Oklahoma, so I am having to skip a few steps and come to reddit. Thanks in advance for all the opinions. I appreciate it!

P.S. We are from the south, so culture shock should hopefully not be an issue? Like we have tractors roaming around and I grew up on a farm. So I know some of that aspect I think.

Long story short, we live in a neighborhood next to the school. My daughter (10f) is supposed to come home after school and unload the dishwasher and then do homework before she can do anything. The last 3 months or so she i.mediately comes home and asks to go play with friends. It got to every single day. I have tried bringing up to the mom "hey can we ask each other first before sending girls to each other's house" but nope.

Now its summer, the deal was she go to summer school for reading OR she help me do education centers with the younger two and she do stem projects while they work on their centers or activities I have laid out for them so I can get a little help during clean up and she can still work on her reading and other things. They would be right besides me in the office so I can monitor everything, all she has to do is read the instructions and maybe help them if they need some help. I thought this was a fair compromise since she would have the entire afternoon to go play with friends.

Well the entire last week and this week she has to be asked to do chores, she left the house without letting me know anything and not helping the younger kids with their activities or doing her reading activities. I told her today she had to stay and help. Shes been in her room most of the morning, she came and asked if she could go play with friends and I told her no to help me I needed help. And she then had the friends come to the door and knock until I finally had to answer the door and now she is gone. I am at my wits end. I do not know what to do.