Telling my black parents I want to rush…
(Hey y'all, this is my first time posting to Reddit so bear with me, I’m sure there are tons of posts on here like this so I’ll try and keep mine short and sweet)
For context, I’m an incoming Freshman at LSU and I’m sort of interested in rushing. However, both of my parents were involved in D9 Greek life at their respective colleges. I know my mom would like me to be her legacy, but I’m just not sure if D9 appeals to me, given their pledging process and the lifetime commitment. It doesn’t help that my mother isn’t even in the D9 sorority I would want to pledge. Rushing overall just seems more fun, I’ve met girls who are also rushing at my school and they seem very nice. I also know other black girls who are rushing.
My cousin, who is also black and my mom’s niece, rushed Kappa Delta at FSU, and my mom didn’t quite understand why either, but wasn’t necessarily mad just judgmental. I’m just nervous about conveying my interests to them as I don’t want them to think I want to be white or hate myself because that is absolutely not the case.
I’m also nervous about the judgment of my parents sorority sisters and frat brothers who have known me since I was little. As well as black people in my family generally. I know that I want to join a sorority and knowing myself, I’ll be kind of disappointed seeing other girls rushing and in sororities knowing that was something I was interested in doing. I don’t want to go through the pledging process and hate it but I also don’t want to miss out on being in a sorority altogether.
There’s a chance that I could hate either one but I would like help presenting the idea to my parents. It just sucks that I have to deal with this conundrum in general and I wish Greek life were less divided. :(