r/Sororities

So I’m a white girl and coming up this is a chance of me joining Zeta Phi Beta in the future. Backstory: I learned about d9 from my friend, before I didn’t know anything about D9. She has alway wanted to become part of Zeta Phi Beta. Two years ago when talking about it I said how I liked D9 and the stuff I’ve learned about all the fraternities and sororities. Somehow in it I got convinced to cross if either of us ever gets a chance. Now there might be a chance and a chance we can do it together, I’m starting to feel weird. I feel weird about being a white girl wanting to join a historical black sorority. I have met a very few white zetas so that makes me more comfortable. My friend has reassured me that there are white zetas and that white people can join. She has family that are and they say it’s okay to join. I guess I just have a fear that if I do I’m going to be looked at as another white person trying to take something that is not theirs and making it theirs. Since learning and doing more research I get stuff of people saying these stuff. I also get Zetas that are welcoming and saying that everyone can join, no matter race. I don’t want to come off like I’m trying to make something that isn’t mine and making it mine. If people feel that way then I’ll step back. I guess I’m just asking what people think? And do you think it’s okay for me to possibly join?

I (18f) am a college freshman, and I attended a continuous of bidding event yesterday. It was a chill hangout, and I was honestly on the edge of deciding to not join a sorority due to costs.

Turns out, they were going to offer me a bid and I didn't want to lose that opportunity (otherwise I'd wait until Spring).

Only thing is holding me back is the fees. Monthly will always be $204 for new members for a year. But for the first 3 payments, they're about $300 (these are due for the duration of october and november, then afterwards its $204 monthly). First payment is due Oct 10.

The thing is that I just got hired to work at olive garden, and it's my first job, so I technically don't have any money of my own yet. I can still pay the dues since I have some money from scholarship refund, but I was planning to work to save up for a spring trip out of the country with a premed club (that's if I apply and get chosen to go), and I was also planning on saving up for PA school just in case. I'm pre nursing right now, but have been interested in PA. I just want myself to work as a CNA first before fully deciding (that will be my second job I'll apply to later as well).

Joining a sorority has been in the back of my mind eversince I heard about it at the beginning of college. I am just still unsure if the money is worth it compared to other things I want to use my money towards as well. For my other cultural club, I paid to become a member and got put into a family, so a group of people who plans hangouts and stuff together. So far not what I expected, so I'm worried if joining a sorority would leave me feeling that way as well...

(I also commute so I don't live on campus, and I'm at a commuter school so it's sort of hard to make friends. I've only been able to meet new people through the clubs I've joined. And financially, my mom can help but I feel that she has already spoiled me enough, so I want to use my own money instead.)

My mom is bringing my 12th grade daughter to visit ASU and University of Arizona. My mom also wants to visit her sorority (she went to USC). So she would like my daughter to wear fancy clothes, because back in the old days of USC, that’s what the sorority girls wore. But it’s 2026 and Arizona. We’d be stopping by to see the house after school tours. What outfit would be appropriate?

Hi. I'm pretty bummed because I'm the only one in my sorority without a little and my big just won't talk to me. I was really excited for both, but especially being a big myself since my big ignores me, but I was just told by the new member director that the only potential bigs that can apply are the MCs after mine 😔 if anyone wants to be my big/lit lmo 🙂

hi so im in a really weird place. i was given a bid by a small sorority at my school and then was told they aren’t accepting new members? however the national panhellenic council gave me the ok to participate in cob. i’m just kinda confused as to what happened? and what anyone recommends.