Liking someone poly + open (help a girl out)
Problem/Goal: What do you do if you really like someone who’s already in an open relationship (wlw)?
Context: It stopped feeling casual/unserious for me unfortunately. I’ve only ever been in monogamous relationships, but weirdly enough, her having a partner didn’t bother me as much as I thought it would. If anything, it’s making me question whether I actually align with monogamy as much as I used to.
I guess I just wanna know what this is realistically like from people who’ve actually been in healthy poly/throuple/open dynamics. If I confess my feelings to her, how does that usually go? Should I even try? Do you also have to build a relationship with the partner? How do you establish boundaries for yourself and theirs while still respecting both people involved? And how do you know if poly/open dynamics are genuinely for you?
Would appreciate honest thoughts/advice from people with experience!!!