Honestly? Ain't jealous of you.
I understand the fact now that you can be often misunderstood. You often try to understand the situation to make it clear before offer a solution or giva an advice at least.
Well I'm the type of a person that has no an unambiguous portrait at all.
Most of people consider me as either a person that is sensitive, creative, or the one who likes brainstorms, or the one who sees things before they happen, or even the one who is able to solve the problems with simple logic.
I was often typed as an INFP. And yet? People's description is very, very different.
Let's just say, lots of weird stuff happened to me lately.
Came to the point that my family members suspect I have some form of disidentity disorder (highly-likely OSDD, but I have no amnesia, but most ironic thing is that some signs were when I used to study in school, one of the teachers was also suspecting that, not that I took it seriously back then). Won't go into details further here. Whoever knows — knows.
I have one of the alters which is suspiciously familiar to ISTP-T 6w5 (yes, he has a name, but I won't mention this).
I began notice things I didn't see earlier. I can notice the way my sensory perception, way of thinking, voice, walking, manner of speech changes, even handwriting changes.
So, to the point here. Enough of demagogy.
It is admirable that you're capable of things to be done. It is admirable that you are capable of solving issues. I understand that you cherish autonomy ('cause so do I).
Just you see, I noticed that I'm not capable of describing the way I feel things more properly when I'm way too concentrated on what I have and what to do about it. Feels like much easier just to put it aside, wind off, go to exercise, go for a shooting (yes, I do like it a lot). Lately, I began to have arguements over silly things just because somebody took me wrong when I just try to understand if there's something else needs to be done while others think that I'm being cold and trying to find a trick in the reason they either adressed or called me.
I don't say you have no feelings. You do. You do feel and do things, but in your own way. You describe stuff, but in your own way, you can talk, you can speak, but concisely and briefly, which may confuse people very much (and lead to silly arguements and misunderstandings which I have a lot lately).
Means like I'm both blessed to be able to have a variety of thinking and cursed to be an either "hypocrite" or "pretender" in the face of the others because they see me now in all colours they didn't see me before.
I literally had to mourn for months to come up with resignation and acceptance of myself (which I already did, I'll just make it through despite everything).
My thanks to the God I have a friend from the school (who is also ISTP, not that I ever expected that we would get along some day after graduation) who can understand my multifaceted personality and "bugs", so, he doesn't call me "insane".
Again.
You may be wronged because of wrong assumptions about "coldness", but now I see and understand.
After all? You don't owe a single explanation of your mindset to the people can't see stuff the way you do unless they are the ones who actually care.
Advice: if you have a hard time explaining stuff, just say that you genuinely have no idea how to explain. Must help a lot. Much better than you would avoid telling a thing when it comes to something unfamiliar to you.