r/istp

I’m an ENFP, and one of my good friends is an ISTP.

And I have a theory about you fuckers.

You love presenting yourselves as these calm, rational, emotionally detached people who just want to be left alone.

Bullshit.

You’re not necessarily the responsible ones. You’re just better at looking responsible.

My ISTP friend and I are a perfect example:

Individually? Two reasonably functioning adults.
Together? Absolutely fucking ridiculous.

We get completely wasted, end up dancing shirtless in clubs, encourage each other’s worst decisions, and somehow manage to make every night significantly more chaotic than originally
planned.

And here’s the funniest part.

I’m supposed to be the chaotic ENFP. HE’S supposed to be the calm, logical one.

Yet somehow this man needs approximately ZERO convincing to participate in the dumbest shit imaginable.

I genuinely think some ISTPs are secretly just as unhinged as ENFPs. The difference is that ENFPs advertise their insanity, while ISTPs wait until they’ve found someone equally questionable
before revealing theirs.

And maybe that’s why we get along so fucking well.

But here’s what I actually want to know:

Are ISTPs genuinely calm and rational, or is that just the personality you show people you don’t find interesting enough to be completely insane around?

And a bonus question:

Do you actually need chaotic extroverts to bring out your wild side, or are you secretly the bad
influence pretending to be the innocent one?

Because I’m starting to suspect my ISTP friend is the fucking problem.

does it happen with you guys? Do I have to always fake myself as a feeler so they don't run away?!!

for context I don’t really care about socialising that much (though I have managed to, under rare circumstances) and I mind my own business but

I have been so bored bro

like yes im alone most of the time but what if I want to yap to someone? I can’t just randomly approach people that already see me as some quiet weirdo..

I used to have a few friends but long story short they lowkey hate me (was my fault so yea) and I have like 1-2 left. One of them is my bsf. feel like a leech near her because what if im spending too much time just with one person?

Otherwise some people who I don’t find to be absolutely shallow and idiotic are people that I may utter a few phrases to, but ive havent gotten any further than just being acquaintances with them..

Title.

I trusted my guts and got called delusional, I don’t know if I’m being gaslighted.

So, I know it's not Saturday yet to make this question but I was trying to find some clarity on this. You see, I have a friend who is ISTP 9w1 I guess... and he recently broke up with her ex, like three months ago. The thing is that I don't know if he is dating someone. We both are friends but it would shock me if he would do that, also, when he broke up with his ex, he started sending me reels and memes and stuff, which he rarely did while he was in the relationship. So I would send reels back and stuff, and we even played together in an online game. But this 2 weeks he hasn't send me any reels or memes, I have been sending him some and he responds and everything seems to be fine. Then I decided to stalk his IG and it seems that he is still heartbroken and stuff, but sometimes he shares things like: when I aint got no car but she wants you to come over. But that reel is like a reference to an anime that he likes, I guess it's a meme. So, yall think he is dating someone or basically is just a thing he does? Sorry if some words don't make any sense, my first language is not English:P