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Neil Perry - Dead poets society

Gwen Stacy - The amazing spiderman

Evie - descendants

Himeno - chainsaw man

Evie - thirteen

Nina - Black swan

Jessie - Before trilogy

Camille - My life as a courgette

Ai hoshino - Oshi no ko

Serena - MTV Downtown

Elizabatt - Monster high frights camera action

Sharpay Evans - High school musica

Seth Cohen - The Oc

Claire - The breakfast club

help lol

So uh, a bit about me,

I grew up as the ”gifted kid”, naturally conscientious and a high achieving perfectionist (carried onto my later adult years too), learned from an early age to associate success and achievement with self worth as many other high achieving students

struggled socially, not because I wasn’t social enough but it just seemed hard for me to get along with other kids, had a strong “my way” type personality yet didn’t wanna argue if there is another strong personality around so I’d just retreat.

Was an only child who was pampered and tended to, yet many of my needs remained unmet, especially my deeper emotional needs and how lonely I felt outside the house, how isolating it became. I learned to fixate on and almost romanticize the idea of a special someone “the perfect best friend” that would finally understand me and accept me for who I am. I didn’t end up finding them so I quickly adapted into repressing my identity and trying to adapt to others in order to feel more loved and accepted

Though I struggled making deep emotional bonds, I had no problem being popular, the “perfect” image I always presented and tried my very best to maintain coupled with my bubbly and enthusiastic personality got me a lot of attention anywhere that I was, good and bad. I was always very well known and respected for my achievements, manners and personality and I liked it that way. I fought with myself and my mental disorders to maintain it, the perfect look the flawless image I thought protected me from judgment and eventually rejection, since I had struggled with rejection a ton in younger years again since, no one wanted to befriend the enthusiastic and bossy me..

The same patterns continued through my teens, successful image, flawless exterior, lonely and isolated on the inside. I struggled even more making friends as a teen since the fixation grew stronger and the extent I would reject my own personality and try to adapt to others grew with it as a result. It was an awful time, my mental state quickly escalated as well, as I struggled with emotional regulation and anxiety, intense academic pressure due to my extremely high standards, and even more loneliness.

I still remember the time I stoped seeing myself as a high achiever, I tried doing some self discovery and reflection again, as I felt very empty inside, I resorted again to my fantasy of finding a special person, maybe they’d make all of this go away I thought

I have adhd so I don’t know how to explain the 7 part, I’m not the most impulsive ever but I’m obviously always bored and never saying no to a good time. I love keeping things light and fun and romanticize everything about my life, even struggled to face negative emotions in my teens as it felt like a threat to the happy bubbly personality that I thought defined who I was

I considered being a 2 because of my intense desire to be liked and accepted, my empathy and big ability to read and understand others, sometimes convincing myself I know what’s going on, even though I’m no mind reader, I take great pride in my emotional understanding of others, not so much of myself but that’s something we’re working on :’)

I was self sacrificing in terms of identity, but no so much in terms of trying to help others or better their lives, I was much more focused on the feeling of being loved, but hate being depended on, it makes me feel trapped or something. I attracted a lot of people who admired me and wanted to be my friends, though I had no interest in them and found their obsessive nature quite suffocating.. so that’s that

I’m still incredibly ambitious, though I have grown out of the societal expectations and started focusing on my own personal meaning of success. Some even think I’m delusional with how high I aim most of the time.

if I’m a heart triad core there’s definitely a 7 fix present , as i really struggle with negative emotions, expressing and accepting them, oh also I struggle with asking for help, as I always felt like I should be capable of handling it, despite my family being there for me and not making me really on myself in a lot of physical needs, I have no problem having others take care of me as a result, it’s emotional and mental health help I struggle to ask for, as somewhere in the back of my head a voice still tells me “others shouldn’t see you this way” and that I’ll be forever hated and resented for depending “so much” on others

If you made it this far thanks for reading my messy rant :) I’ll possibly edit it later to make it more coherent for you and if I remember anything <3

I noticed that most e2s, especially on pdb tend to almost automatically be typed as Social 2s without additional thought. I keep seeing many characters or celebrities that could be Sp2s with the right argument but are just thrown into the so2 wagon. it seems as though if an e2 isn’t particularly childish or spoiled but also not sx2 aggressive (again stereotype) they just assume social two for them

Are social 2s the most common twos or are Sp2s misunderstood

interested in this class but couldn’t find it on time table builder. or they no longer having it?

Hey intps, I’ve been wondering, how often do you guys initiate texts and conversations with your friends? If they’re the ones to initiate, how often do you respond, or like how long does it usually take you to (depending on circumstance ofc)

I am not an INTP and I usually initiate when I find something fun that I want to share with someone in particular, it doesn’t really matter if we’re that close or not (though the frequency will definitely increase if we’re close and I know more about you). For responding I usually try to respond to more urgent messages first, the more casual ones depend on my availability

A conversation with an intp on this subreddit actually inspired me to ask the question : What are some tell tale signs an intp is actually romantically interested/invested vs liking you as a friend? It is already rare for an intp to like you as a person and want to be friends, let alone have feelings for you, which can get confusing

Me and my intp are now friends, they had romantic feelings for me in the past, which I only knew about from mutuals and not directly from them since they were incredibly shy and never approached me about it. I just ended up approaching them in a friendly way a few years later and they just went along with it, but neither of us initiated anything more than friendship as I just assumed they were over the feelings. They do obviously like me as a person and seem to enjoy engaging with me as a friend, so I'm trying to understand whether it's all good and they're over it or if they're secretly perceiving my friendship advancements as romantic rejection

Anyways, just share differences in your behavior when liking someone platonically vs romantically

My Intp friend is overly agreeable with me and I'm confused. don't get me wrong, it's great, and makes them easy to talk to and get along with, but I don't recall them being this way when we knew each other back then. They were a pretty stereotypical super reserved 5w4 ish Intp who was easy going but very particular about their opinions, as you'd expect from an Intp.

I'll give an example, let's say I am talking to them about a show I really like, a series, a movie, or maybe not even one I'm super into, maybe just one I'm thinking of watching, whenever I suggest or recommend something to them they always agree to give it a watch, a listen, etc. I understand that Intp's are naturally open and curious, but I've known other Intps who weren't like this. It's espesially uncommon from an E5, as this leans towards more E9 behavior in my opinion, if we are getting into enneagrams, in which I am very sure they are a core 5 type because they do not display these traits usually, I am not sure why they feel the need to be this way with me. It seems as if they are being overly nice with me, or in other words overly open to engage with my world and my interests, and I am trying to figure out if it's a genuine thing or do they feel pressured in any way, which isn't my intent in any of my friendships. I do not want my friends to ever feel pressured or persuaded to do things by me, especially not things they would rather not do

If any of you guys find yourselves behaving this way please share why and when, if it's a sign you feel comfortable or uncomfortable with the person, if it's likely genuine or not etc... If it's something some intps just naturally do when friends with someone pls tell me, as I might be overthinking this

I posted already on this subreddit about my lovely intp friend, so here's context if you are interested, just so that I don't repeat myself https://www.reddit.com/r/INTPrelationshipLab/comments/1u2ta23/intps_friendship_and_texting/

Sometimes my intp friend takes quite a bit to reply (I know, Intp slow replies, shocking!)

Me and my Intp have known each other for years now, well, known *of* each other, our friendship didn't start materializing until recently, here's how it went:

Met in class, oddly bonded, otherwise reserved intp didn't seem to mind me and actually took personal interest in what I had to say, would eventually start initiating awkward small talk and making little efforts to be more present around me. I would encourage the intp to share their brilliant ideas, and they would actually laugh at my punny jokes and little associations, which not many seemed to get at the time so I was happy :3

When me and the intp weren't in class together anymore (but still in school), we sort of struggled to stay in contact as we both didn't use socials at the time, and hung out in different social circles. Still the intp would try to make the effort to say Hi, which I thought was super sweet. We were both pretty shy about engaging at the time, despite liking each other, and the fact that they started having feelings for me did not help in the slightest. Soon enough everyone knew they liked me, as the intp was horrible at hiding it, they were terribly awkward about it, I thought it was cute, but I was hesitant to engage despite wanting to, as they started being incredibly shy around me and I feared scaring them away. School ended and we didn't make much progress. That is when I was introduced to social media and started adding friends on there, so I found the Intp and decided to engage, mind you this was a few years after school was over. after a few awkward attempts at maintaining small talk, we finally started talking, as I mentioned common interests and we found it incredibly easy to carry on from there. It's been great! The intp is super patient with me and a great listener, would engage with whatever yap I'd share and would share their own perspectives, anecdotes and opinions related to what I'd share. I would mostly take on initiating (as I always have a lot to yap about), and they were pretty responsive and seemed to enjoy engaging with whatever new thought or idea I had. I expected them to sort of find my jumping from thought to another confusing, but in true intp fashion they kept up just great. I really appreciate their insights and love our conversations. The only ever thing is that my intp sometimes forgets about me, or for whatever reason goes on for days not responding. This feels like it should be totally normal, as I'm aware people get busy, or might just not be in the mood and whatnot, I relate to ghosting loved ones myself when things are busy or I'm overwhelmed, it's just that, idk, since it's a relatively new friendship, an anxious little part of me is trying to stop me from further pursuing it, afraid that I am being bothersome or scaring them away or something by my thoughts and ramblings, that I was pretty sure they were into, since they always engage thoroughly and positively with, it just sometimes takes them time to respond

I guess I just came here to share, half aware it is a matter of my own insecurities that I am dealing with, and the other half open for intp input on why intps might tend to forget to respond to their fellow humans sometimes. Since fellow humans don't want to be needy they just end up being a little sad and thinking they might be bothersome

Also if anyone else relates to these types of feelings please share any tips that would help me self soothe and maybe not self sabotage the relationship, that would be great

For reference, I am a neurodivergent xnfj who has struggled with anxiety and other mental health issues in the past. My friend is likely a 5w4 type intp with a few E9 tendencies ^^

Hey guys! I want to make summer 2026 my 2006 summer, so I’m looking for all your favourite late spring/early summer 2000s activities! Please recommend things you used to do alone or with friends, things that were popular or niche, brands and stores you liked shopping at, places you liked hanging out at etc… I know the mall was huge in the 2000s, as well as sleepovers and stuff. Go ahead! Share all you know : D