r/EnneagramTypeMe

help me bro ive been struggling with ts for so longgggg💔 i know it probably sounds like such a simple thing to figure out but i show sososoooooo many traits of both e6 and e7, if anyone could give any advice on ultimate 7 vs 6 tie breakers thatd be so much appreciated!!!!

I cant know which type I am, because I feel like i act as a few enneagrams in different situations.

So far I relate most to SP7 and SP8. Maybe a slight of SP5, but only because i tend to isolate when im feeling down, and I just like to deal with my problems alone.

I relate to SP7 because im pleasure first. I always seek instant progress, instant dopamine, etc. I tend to get excited about possibilities or plans, yet I dont relate a lot to "distracting myself" part. And I can actually settle on things as long as they provide enough dopamine for me.

I relate to SP8 due to indepency, autonomy and dealing with problems directly and immediately, though, I am not that bothered by not being dominated, I try to be polite and respectful to others, and overall i never was even a little rude as e8 descriptions usually are.

i relate more to sp7 and sx8 than the others enneagrams, but the problem is that it would be contradictory for me to be sx8 since im an entp and i feel like im more sx than sp but i somehow related to sp7? my bf said it describes me perfectly but im between sx8 and sp7

Hello all! I’m a lot more familiar with MBTI than enneagram (RAGING ENFJ here!!!), and I am so, so, so confused about what a tritype is supposed to be, or how you can be numbers across the spectrum from your “main” number, and what the “e” and “sx” and such are for. If anyone could help me understand that would be great!!

OBVIOUSLY this question is very opinions based, but i still wanna know what everybody thinks (and why!!! i want explanations!!!) i think the best enneagrams personally are sp5, so9, so4 and sx7 but i cant pick just one answer😭 i have a feeling the most said answers will be e6 and e9 but yea im curious!!!

I've always been fascinated by understanding how people and the world work. I naturally look for patterns, hidden meanings, and long-term implications rather than focusing on what's directly in front of me. I enjoy psychology, philosophy, history, politics, and analyzing human behavior. When I become interested in a topic, I can spend hours researching it just because I genuinely want to understand it.

I value intelligence, wisdom, competence, and respect more than almost anything else. I admire people who think independently and have strong principles. I have high expectations for myself, which often leads to perfectionism and procrastination. I tend to plan a lot but don't always follow through because I keep refining the plan or overthinking my next step.

Socially, I'm selective. I enjoy meaningful conversations and can talk for hours with someone I find interesting, but I get bored by superficial interactions. I usually need time alone to recharge. I don't trust people easily, but once I do, I'm very loyal.

When solving problems, I try to understand the root cause instead of treating the symptoms. I like seeing how different ideas connect and often question assumptions before accepting them. If someone disagrees with me, I'm happy to change my mind if their reasoning is solid. If I think criticism is unfair or illogical, I'll defend my position.

I'm ambitious and want to build a successful life, but success by itself isn't enough. I want to become knowledgeable, capable, and leave behind something meaningful. If I achieved all of my goals, I'd probably spend my life continuing to learn about the world.

I've been typed as INTJ, 5w4 sx/sp, 541, ILI, and LVEF, but I'm not attached to those labels. I'm looking for honest opinions based on my behavior and motivations rather than stereotypes. You can ask me more questions.

What type do you think I am, and why?

i really wanna know everyones thoughts on which enneagram they think is the worst at low points \^\^ i have some speculation of which enneagram will be the widest answer but um yea i wanna know what people think!!

I thought I was 4w5 for so long but now I'm REALLY unsure and I'm thinking I'm actually 4w3. Can anyone help me please? Sorry for the long description.

I think I'm SP4, but SO4 could also be an option. I see very strong characteristics of both 4w3 and 4w5 in myself—my wings seem balanced.

I identify with the 3 wing because I would say I am very hardworking, resilient, and persevering. I don’t do things halfway—I always do the best I can. I don’t give up easily, and even when I am not good at something, I keep doing the best I can. I am a perfectionist, but maybe that is my 1 fix. I have also created and keep evolving an image of myself to become who I want to be. For example, I am an introvert and shy, but I noticed that I didn't attract people easily, and if I did nothing, no one would ever talk to me. That's when I realized that as much as I feel shy, in a new place nobody knows me, so I pretended to be an extrovert and made friends with introvert outcast people like me. Almost like "fake it till you make it". I am always improving parts of my personality to become who I want to be, while staying true to who I am. My style is alternative and I don’t care what people think of it because I know I like it and there are people like me that will like it too. It's part of the image I created for myself. I also want to be good at everything even though I know it's not possible to and I'm a natural leader, even if I'm shy, people usually rely on me.

BUT I wouldn't say I care much about getting attention or winning, just about doing my best—I am not really competitive. For example, when I was in art high school, the teacher said we all had to do the same drawing, and then they would vote for the winning poster for a big event that would be exhibited all over the city. I didn't care much about winning, I just did what I enjoyed: art. In the end, I won, and on the day of the event, I found out they called me to the stage during a moment I was away for a few seconds. I didn't know they were going to call me, and when I found out I missed the opportunity, I was devastated for not seeing my work recognized and losing the chance to stand out even though I'm also shy about it? Idk I like when people recognize and see me in a way. Another thing I don't identify with the 3 wing is that although I care about my image in a way and worry about my identity being understood, I HATE everything that is futile/fake and superficial. I don’t care that much about appearances. I also don't consider myself dramatic AT ALL, and I would hate for people to even think that of me—that's a part where I don't identify with the 4w3 stereotype.

I also identify a lot with the 5 wing. I have a very strong logical side, although I am clearly more emotional. I need my alone time VERY much to recharge, and I reflect a lot on everything; I feel too much and I also overthink and analyze too much. I am assertive but also very cautious, and I often worry and accumulate knowledge until I understand what I need to and feel safe to act. I study my emotions and reflect deeply on them. I am also more reserved.

online i hear soooo much trash talk on e4s, but ive never met one and i wanna know if theyre actually as bad as made out to be. idk based off descriptions i kinda like them!! obviously everyone is different but i feel like theres gotta be more bad or good of something right? but anyways, tell me your experiences with e4s!! and also if you know, what are their instinctual variants? :D

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i value accessibility and time of whoever sits around reading all these book worth of texts about others with antipication of helping, therefore i will keep it as short as possible.

before questionnaire: i'm almost sure i am ENXP, closer to ENTP for mbti though i consistently score ENFP on these. ennegram tests on the other hand, i colllected core types like infinity stones basically. they are NOT RELIABLE. they lack context, they lack depth, and they rely on my knee jerk reaction to the question meanwhile how i act is highly dependent on environment, which is unspesified in the question.

questionnaire:

-i am 24

-i enjoy physical jobs. detest office work, and also anything routine

-i have grown up believing adults are awesome and children are expandable. which made me focus more on meeting others needs (e.g: don't misbehave) and ignored my own. though i also naturally lack sense of danger

-don't want to mention my health problem, but i have difficulty focusing

-i am curious

-i don't enjoy leadership position

-i like physically interacting

-i am artistic but i am not motivated

-i always help when i can

-i depend a lot to logic

-i am not productive

-i don't control others but violently retaliate to incoming attempts

-my hobby is trying to make up my mind

-i am blatantly kinetic learner. i don't like controlled environments

-i will never depend on strategy unless i see it as novelty and optional

-what is important to me is not losing my mobility. just as much as that, well being of a friend.

-what i fear the most is running away from penance

-highs on my life looks like i took drugs

-lows in my life usually ends with me chasing approval and begging for attention. i may appear calm under intense pain, but it's facade

-i am semi-realistic, semi-idealistic

-it takes me significant time to process my emotions

-i don't follow any rules which didn''t make any sense to me. i detest authority. i hate whoever wants to remain untouchable yet expect others to submit

-my ideal place is a place with significantly less humans

in the end, am i INFP 6, ENTP 8, ENFP 4? any combination of these? i am serioulsy getting nowhere

This might be overboard but I just watched videos explaining all the enneagram subtypes and wrote down everything I related to. So... Type me I guess. I really wanna know my tritype but anything is fine. Also sorry I didn't really bother editing it

Sp1:

I have a really big need to be a good person. I never act myself act innapropriate which is why I never show my negative emotions. Because I'm scared that it might not be morally right. I'm incredibly anxious about being perfect. If I do something that's not considered moral, I'll freak out really bad. I also so try hard to become a good person so I can be trustworthy and reliable. I feel like all the responsibilities lay on me. I'm very obsessive about this. I feel like things aren't under control because they're not in MY control. There's so many things I would like to do, but the internal critic in me won't let me. On the outside Im a lot more friendly and warm. I don't hold others on the same standards as me. I'd say I'm anger repressed. I don't feel much anger at all actually, I just feel anxiety. It's hard for me to stop being hyperviligant. I wanna do the right thing and find the perfect solution for problems. I wanna be safe from blame. I don't want others to shame me or criticize me and I get extremely distressed when they do. I often ask myself "why am I the only one who cares?" "why am I the only one who has to be like this?"

So1:

I don't relate to anything

Sx1:

I sometimes feel like people would be better off if they just listened to me. Or if everyone was more like me. Often whenever I do something bad, I tend to start justifying my actions without meaning to. I can have a very "Ive earned this" "it's not hurting anybody" mindset. This also causes me to be paranoid of other people. Because of my own bad behavior I do behind the scenes, it scares me that others might be doing the same. I hold a resentment for everyone around me and there's not a single person I have nothing bad to say about. I can feel like I deserve special treatment. I can also be very hypocritical when it comes to moral high grounds. I relate to nothing else. 

Sp2:

I can come across as very childlike. It's kinda apart of my personality. I act sorta immature and I've had a lot of people calling me cutesy. I have this unconscious need to be taken care of. I always strive to act friendly towards others, and i get really happy when people reciprocate that. I want support from other people and I try to make that happen through friendliness. This is gonna sound narcissistic, but people seem to consider me as very sweet and maybe even charming? Ive had a lot of people attached to me. I can relate to all kinds of people. I can be very enthusiastic, playful and fun loving. I often distract myself from my negative emotions with social things. Sometimes I find it hard to take responsibility for my emotions. I'm very hypersensitive especially to criticism, but I mask it. I consider myself to be dependable and capable but i also always resist being the person in charge. I feel incredibly uncomfortable being the person of authority. I wanna be important but the thought of being a leader sounds horrible. I support people a lot and whenever someone tries to thank me, my first instinct is to minimize it. I find it hard to assert my own boundaries. When somebody relies to me, deep down I wish that somebody else would do it instead. It's weird because I do really wanna help people. But there's just this underlying feeling yk. I wanna be seen as a hardworking and independent person yet I'm hesitant to actually try to be. I wanna be seen and known, but there's no one who really knows me because I'm scared of showing people what's behind the surface. Because I know it wouldn't please people. I'm a pretty private person. I also really dislike being seen as two-faced and manipulative. It's one of the only things that truly set me off.

So2:

I wanna be seen as somebody competent and someone people can rely on. I REALLY wanna be seen as someone that can be relied on. I spent a lot of time researching on how to help people. I wanna be so good at it that even the most private people open up to me. I try to do things the way they should be done. I'm very people oriented. I often work behind the scenes to make things in my group circle work. Though I procrastinate a lot about it, I'm not productive. I'm very connected to my people and I have a clear understanding of them. I can get into a bit of a superiority complex sometimes because of this "I do right things for the right reason so why don't others do it too?" mentality. I wish people would be more like me sometimes. I'm also deeply scared of being ignored or important. I feel the need to be the center of attention in all my friend groups and easily get envious or jealous. I have a big need for admiration. I can also be seen as everybody's friend, though I often feel like everybody's servant.

Sx2:

I want people to be attached to me and I want to be the center of attention. I wanna seem appealing to people. I can present myself in a specific way to draw others in. I can be very supportive of others and I'm naturally very vibrant. I have this "I don't have to tell you what I need because we're so bonded that you should notice" mindset that's deeply ingrained into me. And if it's proven wrong, I'll get extremely upset and resentful. I think I'm good at reading people and understanding what they need. I can become what people like in order to get them to like me more. I prioritize the people that matter the most to me, while neglecting my other friendships. I charm specific people sometimes because I know I'll need them. I think that's pretty much it, I don't really relate to anything else.

Sp3:

I wanna be thought of as a good person. I wanna be the best example and have the ability to be a good role model. I don't wanna come across as self-absorbed and I don't want people to know that I want their approval. I think that's it

So3:

I crave applause and attention deeply. I tend to seek attention a lot and I strive to be the center of it. I rely on social media recognition a lot for example. I often post stories where I just talk about things I did because I want attention. I also post quite a bit and it pains me when I don't get enough likes. I tend to morph myself in order to be liked. I have a hard time with relationships because I'm scared of letting people know about me too deeply. I'm very conscious about how much I let people know. I feel like they'll reject me and see how broken I am.

Sx3:

I wanna please people. I tend to act like people's personal cheerleader a lot. I promote people a lot and deeply care for their achievements. I feel like I have value if the team is winning. I can come across very kind and friendly. I'm also pretty shy. I can change for other people without meaning to and sometimes I lose myself. Tbh I relate a lot to that one, but I only specifically relate to it whenever I'm in a bad mental state.

Sp4:

I connect with my negative emotions deeply but I keep them to myself. I feel like they're too much for others. Not everyone needs to deal with my sensitivity. I've always understood that. On the outside I come across as happy, friendly and positive. I put on an exterior of happiness and I tend to confuse people a lot because of that. I transcend my pain to connect with others. I never express any negative emotions like sadness or anger and whenever I do I tend to feel gross. I feel like I'd push others away by expressing them. I want people to see my self sacrifice and appreciate me for it. Sometimes I put myself in tense situations to see how much I can handle. I don't wanna dwell in my envy and dissatisfaction. I never feel like I'm enough. I feel like I have to earn people's affection by not being a burden. By helping people and not burdering them with my pain. I'm really into careers that involve empathy like counseling, social service etc... I'm very good at realizing what's going on in my circles. I see disconnections, tensions, disagreements. 

So4:

I know that there's something wrong with me. I feel as if I am inherently broken. I have a bit of a victim complex. I don't show my pain, but I tie it to my identity a lot. I can't imagine myself without it. I'm so envious of literally everyone in my life. While I don't express my negative feelings, I actually do complain a lot. About superficial things like... Complaining about a friend or that I'm hungry. And I do it in order to gain attention. Despite how I am now, when I was younger I actually WOULD wear my suffering on my sleeve. I would show it to everyone and my whole identity was based around it. As time went by, shame overtook me though. And even then I still barely actually vented. Sometimes when I'm in trouble for doing something wrong, I can weaponize my own vulnerability in hopes of receiving validation. I'm overly sensitive. I wanna be seen in my suffering. I wanna be forgiven for my failures and be loved unconditionally. And I deeply fear that people are gonna start hating me. I compare myself to others a lot and I always give up because I end up at the bottom. A lot of people seem to think highly of me but I feel so inferior to others. Whenever somebody thinks lowly of me(which happens rarely) I internalize it a lot. But I also can't help it but feel a sense of comfort with it. Because it proves that I'm right. I'm very lazy and procrastinate a lot because I'm scared of failure. I find it hard to take responsibility often. I find a lot of familiarity and comfort in sadness. I self sabotage a lot. I feel as if I'm on my own. I don't entirely trust anyone. It feels like it's me vs the world. I often think about how no one will ever truly understand me.

Sx4:

I can be very attention seeking. I enjoy being different at times. Unconsciously I really do wanna be different too. (Unconsciously since I don't actually realize it in the moment). I can be somewhat aggressive and have been physically violent at times. When pushed to my limit though.

Sp5:

Nothing really? Interestingly enough, people have vibetyped me as this. Irl though, I tend to keep people at a huge distance. Very similarly to how this subtype does. I like to be alone, and I feel intruded easily.

So5:

Nothing

Sx5:

Sometimes I fantasize about an ideal relationship (though not romantic). I want somebody who I can share EVERYTHING with. Everything I am. I tend to express all my relational passions through creative outlets. I value my private space and I can be introverted.  I need somebody to trust and be close with. But I'm scared of sharing myself with other people. I very rarely have. I'm very idealistic about this, which is why I have trouble finding that perfect person. And even when I find them, I quickly realized that the perfect person is not actually perfect. It's hard for anybody to really pass my test. I'm easily disappointed. I wanna be connected to people, but my connections often come off awkward. In private I know exactly what I wanna say, but when I actually have to, I tend to stumble over my words a lot. And I never share stuff clearly.

Sp6:

I lead with friendliness and warmth. I tend to be bubbly, easygoing and energetic. I'm very hyperviligant. I notice inconsistencies in people very easily. I can test people by asking questions just to see if they're reliable. I'm extremely fearful. A lot of the childhood stories I share are ones with fear. I've always been a very easily scared person. I'm very indecisive. I always feel like I never have enough information to make up my mind. I build up a lot of friendships and connections. Whenever something bad happens I feel as if i can lean on them. I want support from people. I fear other people's anger a ton. Even the slightest sign of anger in someone can make me freak out. Which is why I never let out my own anger. I'm much more likely to let out my anger after a situation happens. And I only let it out with close friends. I find it hard to apologize to people and admit I was wrong, because that would mean inviting all of their anger. I don't like taking leadership roles because I don't feel capable of it. I know exactly how to solve my problems but I NEED someone that I can process that solution with. I wanna be protected and have no enemies. Or well... I do wanna have enemies kinda, but I also wanna have security and know I'll be protected. Assertive strong willed people are very attractive to me. On the inside I'm ALWAYS overthinking. I can keep my cool when crisis happens because I'm already ALWAYS in crisis.

So6:

I have a huge fear of doing anything wrong. I don't want people to disapprove of me, especially once I project an authority figure on. I tend to look at morals I can follow. I really want certainty. I NEED to be certain. The world feels safest when it's black and white. I feel extremely anxious when I'm uncertain. I look at what MY people have to say and I follow that. I look into that.

Sx6:

I'm only like this irl with specific people, but I can go into this "you don't know what I'd be capable of if I was pushed into a corner" mindset. And I AM capable of being aggressive. I don't know what other people are capable of and that scares me. I feel like I have to be ready anytime to repel that threat. I can deny my vulnerability by acting aggressive. If somebody threatens me I'm more likely to double down on my aggression and challenge them further. HOWEVER I'm only really like that with specific people that have pushed me to my limit. So I don't think this counts anyway.

Sp7:

I'm pleasure-seeking and I can come across as selfish because of that. I feel like what I want is what I need. I tend to burn through friends a lot. I'm constantly becoming friends with new people and seeing them as my best friends, only to immediately stop talking to them when I get bored and find someone new. Nothing's ever enough to satisfy me, I NEED more. I've always had a REALLY bad fear of missing out. I build a lot of connections. They're like personal allies who will support me to help me get what I want in life. I trust them to get me out of trouble, make me accessible to fun experiences, etc. I get myself very excited for things, only to then get dissappointed by how underwhelming things are. Despite the way I handle relationships, I do occasionally find a group that I stick to. And I see it as family. I believe I have a privileged position there as well. 

I feel like I can't have peace until I've acquired that gluttony. I've had people tell me that they're scared that eventually they're not gonna be able to talk to me at all unless they're constantly entertaining me. Unfortunately I am like this with many people. 

I hype things up a lot while planning, and I'm very enthusiastic about them. I'm optimistic that they'll work out. 

Despite how many friends I have, I often lonely. People tend to get exhausted of me easily. I think my friends often feel left out because of how I am. I evade relationships. Intimacy is horrifying. Romantic relationships genuinely feel like being handcuffed to me. They're so limiting and make me feel trapped. I find it stressful when people frequently open up to me or express vulnerability. I aim to keep things light hearted. I'm terrified of sitting in silence. My thoughts always go out of control and I can't sit in discomfort. I'm also pretty resilient and good at finding the positives in situations. A week ago I was in a very awful situation, where'd I be throwing up every day from stress and it was the first time in my life where I had felt so trapped and broken. But even though nothing got better, I'm a lot better now. Because I found more positive things to distract myself with. 

So7:

I do try to resist my gluttony, because I'd rather be thought of as a good person. I have a huge desire to be admired for my goodness. I focus my attention on giving to others, easing their pain etc... I feel like I exist to serve the group. I wanna help by bringing healing. It helps my own pain as well. Serving others kind of purifies my guilt. I avoid conflict and fear commitment.

Sx7:

I hate having to face reality. I wanna stay in this idealistic utopia where there are no problems and everyone's happy. This brings me down a lot, because instead of fixing problems I procrastinate a lot because in my mind everything is okay. I assume that everyone has a familiar mindset and I get really surprised when others tell me I'm being taken advantage of. I don't wanna believe in those things. I'm an extremely naive person and I never seem to learn my lesson. I want everybody to be joyful and upbeat. I can look really depressed for a period of time. And then I discover something exciting and suddenly I'm back in a great mood. My head is always stuck in the clouds. I'm stuck in my dreams. I accidentally make people feel special because I get fall in love (not romantically) with people too fast. Only to then discard them. 

I have a constant need to be humourous, to be liked and to be admired. I'm constantly running away from life. Sometimes I randomly get hit by reality and I start feeling trapped. And then to stop that, I try romanticizing it and picturing myself as a fictional character. I look at the world from an overly romantic idea in general. 

E8:

I relate to nothing

Sp9:

I seek my wants more than my needs. I'm never satisfied. I feel like no one will ever love me for me in life. It feels as if no one will ever truly know me. I tend to put off things I need to be doing. I never make my needs known and just quietly hope for others to know. I don't wanna talk about what's going on with me internally. I often forget my own needs, desires and dreams. My identity is very flexible. I seek out superficial pleasures like eating, playing video games etc... I find a lot of comfort with routines. I'm very good at understanding other people's perspectives. I see how various pieces all fit together. I procrastinate a lot and find it incredibly hard to get myself to do things. Every day feels the same and I find it hard to get out of my routine. I rarely feel anger. Like ever. It's an emotion I lack. Or at least I think so.

So9:

I want to be apart of the group desperately. Sometimes I can lose myself in the team. I care a lot about how I come across. Despite how much I want to belong, I feel like I never truly do. I don't wanna share my pain with others because i don't wanna burden them. I tend to minimize it a lot.

Sx9:

I can see myself through other people's perspectives. Especially if that person is someone important to me. I wanna understand myself. People tell me I'm a sweet and kind person. I'm intuitive and artistic. I find it hard to express my needs especially when others' needs differ from mine.

Hello everyone! Any opinions on the INFJ SO9 9w1? Is it compatible? I'm really confused about it.

desc here! ⬇️ (any comments, help or anything at all is SO appreciated!!!!!)

the idealised version of myself is much more confrontational, but also sweeter and more bubbly and warm. but that doesnt necessarily mean im non confrontational, mean, boring and cold because im not. i already own the traits of my idealised self, theyre just much weaker. i only straightforwardly confront people im comfortable with, which is like...one person. i am sweet and bubbly somewhat, but you have to be someone i like to see that. i am warm, but i can come across cold to people who i dont know very well or dont trust.

i get very ashamed with myself whenever i mess things up for myself. when my mind pulls something out that makes me miserable for the next few days, when i get people mad at me for saying something backhanded or easily misinterpreted, things like that. it feels like i lack being able to verbally express things on the spot

i move forward in life for two things, 1.what i love, and 2.for my future dream. this past year i finally discovered what i actually think my purpose is, now it lingers in me 24/7, but in a good way ^^ i consider it when making every decision. then ofcourse, the things i love! my pets, my friends even though i dont really have any, my family, my house, my favourite foods and drinks and places and youtubers and just everything i cherish

the way i react towards criticism can really differ on how its given to me. if someone actually goes by the more aggressive definition of criticism and gives it to me in an angry, yell-ish way i will improve what they ask of me, but they have totally lost my trust, they will get it back when they do an action that truly makes my day, like complimenting me or just doing anything to show that they trust or like me. if its given to me sweeter and more gentle parenting, i will probably think higher of the person, but unfortunately im less likely to follow their advice😓

its usually rare that someone heavily dislikes me because i dont pull many actions for someone to think so low of me unless its someone like my mom, but i hate when people dislike me. like i said with the criticism thing, my reactions are different based off the way that they show the dislike, but usually i just match whatever they do, unless theyre asking for a fight or smth like that😭 in times like that its better to be the more mature one

the relationship with my maternal figure is, id say pretty good! shes very lenient, forgiving, empathetic and helpful. if i had to name her negative traits, id say she can be unjust, hypocritical and victimising. she is an amazing figure in my life, however as good of a parent as she is, i feel like she brought me up maybe a little careless of real life teachings? such as hygiene, cooking, diet, health, things like that, so i kinda had to learn those myself. well, she absolutely does care about me in those aspects, she just doesnt take action. she says things that she doesnt commit to very often which can be misleading.

the relationship with my paternal figure is different. i absolutely adore him, and look up to him a lot. he is confrontational, confident, joyous and SO funny, however as much as i love him, growing up with him made me forced to have an image of him that makes his negatives more important. he is also lying, angry, stubborn and lacks almost any empathy unless he has gone through the exact same situation as you. everyone in my house was intimidated by him, i truly wasnt, but the rest of my family rubbed that impression off onto me, which meant any large mistake he made (e.g. cheating👀) didnt make me love him any less, but it forced me to be more awkward with him.

i tried to make as little changes as possible because i wanted my personality to be easier to see through my answers. sorry in advance for any grammar mistakes LOL.
also, if you want to type me in any other typology systems i’d really appreciate it!! i can answer more questions if needed too, since i know questionnaires aren’t always the best way to type someone. i mostly just wanted an outside opinion because i feel like i can barely trust my own logic sometimes

1. ⁠What are your views on the good things in life? Do they happen naturally, or do you have to create them yourself? How do they manifest into reality?

i feel like you have to work for most good things yourself, things like money or relationships require you to work for it. i’m a very lazy person and i don’t put too much work into doing much, my relationships are kind of just there. i love my friends and value my relationship but i only just talk to them, i want to be a nicer and more helpful person but it’s very limiting when you’re broke LOL.

2. ⁠What are your views on the bad things in life? What are the reasons they happen? How much control do you really have over such matters?

bad things happen because people make bad decisions, or it’s just something random you can’t control. everyone is responsible for their own actions, so it’s their fault if they make a bad decision that causes something bad to happen. some other things are just pure luck and you can’t control it. as long as you don’t make stupid decisions i think you can’t really control other bad things.

3. ⁠How attached are you to your emotions? How often do you express them to others? What even is the purpose of such feelings? And what are the biases that impede your judgements?

i’m pretty attached to my emotions, i feel like it would be torture if i was a brainless robot who doesn’t feel anything. i try not to express my negative emotions since i know doing that will cause some people to dislike me, but i’ll express them if its people i’m comfortable around. i guess the purpose of feelings is to connect and give people a reason to make changes. if no one got mad or unsatisfied with how things were today, there’d be so much inequality. my emotions CAN effect my choices, but i try to act with my brain since i know there’s a bunch of things i could do wrong if i acted irrationally. the only time i fully act with my emotions is when they’re like huge emotions like heartbreak or something else. it’s not like i don’t take emotions into consideration when i make decisions, i just know if i rely on my emotions too much i might make a bad decision. i also want to add this tinyyyy bit in here for no reason whatsoever: i find it really hard to hide my disgust or distaste towards something. a bunch of people (aka my sister and mom) come to me for fashion advice, and i’m VERY picky about fashion. my facial expressions definitely do not help either. my sister will show me a shirt that i don’t think looks good and my face will immediately show it. it’s not even like i’m trying to be rude, it’s literally just my first reaction and i can’t really control it. my sister has pointed this out several times whenever we go shopping together. my mom has also called me stubborn because she likes to buy me clothes and (no offense mom) her fashion taste is HORRIBLE. this is why i usually prefer clothes shopping by myself because i feel like i know myself best. i really like expressing myself through clothes and i feel like my style is something that’s very personal to me!!

4. ⁠What do you want in life? Are they achievable? If people and obstacles are in your way, what would you do then? With resources being limited, is it ok to acquire essential needs by denying them to someone else?

i guess my only motivation right now is to find my motivation. i have this one quote i said like a month ago and it’s just kinda stuck, “the purpose in life is to find the purpose of your life” the purpose in life can vary for so many different people, some people’s purpose is to make a change, some could be to find love, whatever! i do want to find love and have enough money to buy whatever i want, but i think that’s pretty universal for everyone because ive never met someone who wants to be broke and fully alone LOL. i think my goals are pretty achievable, i just need to keep looking until i find the right purpose for me. if people or obstacles were in my way i wouldn’t know how to act. i don’t see why there would be any obstacles in my way to be honest, it sounds kinda stupid for someone to stand in my way. i guess i would get like pretty sad? i’ve got no clue sorry. i feel like there’s always a fair solution to something so i might try to come up with a fair alternative if resources were limited. i’m not all that smart (besides academics) so it might be a little difficult. if there’s no solution is might try to take it for myself?

5. ⁠Are people inherently good or bad? Or is it neither? What do you believe when it comes to moral goodness? What duties do we all have as individuals? Do we owe anything to each other by default?

i think everyone’s born neutral but grows up to be good or bad, depending on their environment obviously. i think being a good person is just being kind, honest, and fair. obviously some people are more morally good than others, that’s just the basics. everyone owes everyone like basic decency. unless someone’s like a bad person then yeah idgaf if you treat that person like shit 😇

6. ⁠Are you extroverted or introverted? If you're ambiverted, when do you lean on each side? What excites you? What drains your energy? How do you feel alive when plagued by boredom and the mundane?

i’m ambiverted. i lean being extroverted around people i’m comfortable with, i have a big problem with getting annoyed really fast and really easily. it could be something small like criticizing me over how i act or do something and i’ll hold a grudge and just want to leave the room. i’m more introverted around unfamiliar people and people i hate, i genuinely just don’t want to talk to random people unless i think they’re cool or not annoying. i get excited whenever i can be around someone, talk with them, and just have a fun time without getting upset. my energy gets drained around annoying people, super energetic people (when i’m not in the mood), and when people are just shit talking someone i like. i feel more alive when i’m talking to someone and when they’re really focused on me, but not pushy about it. i like when i can talk about myself without another person being bitchy or too pushy.

7. ⁠What people/values/things do you hold dear to yourself? How do you prevent yourself from being separated from them? Does being disconnected scare you? Do you desire to fit in with the world?

i hold a bunch of things dear to me, my bed, my friends, my (not annoying) family, my favorite fictional characters (#imdrooling), and just uh general things like food and pretty clothes and furniture. i prevent being disconnected with them by uh keeping them? i guess with things like my friends i talk to them but i don’t have many resources or money i can spend on them to make them love me 😇 if i had the money though i would totally buy my friends anything they want, that seems kinda pushy though. i can imagine myself saying shit like “oh just grab whatever you want!” i don’t want to overwhelm my friends since i know that’s a thing i do something 😢 i guess being disconnected scares me, my life would be pretty boring and empty if i didn’t have a bed or friends. i don’t desire to fit in with the world, i DO desire to have a place that accepts me though. i don’t want to change who i am just so people will like me, unless i REALLY like someone. then ill probably adjust myself slightly to seem cooler than i actually am. (not really adjusting myself but making my existing qualities more exaggerated)

8. ⁠What are the biggest disappointments you have? It doesn't even have to be something that happened to you personally. What is something you expected more from, but it somehow managed to fall short?

other people and romance. i like the idea of having great friendships and a movie like relationship but all of that is a big lie. friends can easily go behind your back and lie, partners can cheat on you and LIE. i always imagine having these great big friends and a perfect beautiful partner but that shit probably is never gonna happen. i have like high standards, i get annoyed easily, i get frustrated easily. it’s all just so hard to work with that while wanting to have good healthy relationships. for friends i feel like everyone trust shifts too much and one day someone can like me and i can be the center of their world, but then the next they have someone else!! it makes me mad. for romance i have to think they’re beautiful for me to want to date them, but it’s so hard to find someone with a good personality and a good appearance… 😢

9. ⁠What do you expect from others? Are you entitled to anything? Be it love or materialistic things. How easy is it to rely on others? To depend on something else outside of your control?

i expect different things from different people. just in general i expect kindness, fairness, and honesty. but if it’s from a friend i expect actual attention and affection instead of just small talk and not even bothering to get to know me. i feel very entitled to love and affection from everyone but i’m also smart enough to know that’s a stupid thing to feel entitled to. i want to be loved and seen as an angel just for existing but its genuinely a dumb ass thing to expect i hate myself for wishing that. it’s hard to rely on others, i want to be able to. every time i try to rely on others for something big my emotions get like insanely huge and ill start to cry or like just straight up SOB. this is kinda why i struggle with my mental health because i feel so bad asking for help…. gyulp! but man if it’s something small as shit like asking for someone to help me with a task then yeah i’ll ask.

10. ⁠What are you as a person? How do you see yourself? How do others see you? How do you want others to see you? How do you want to see yourself?

i feel like the best word to describe me is contradictory. i’m warm but i can go cold in the snap of a finger, i can be happy but be sad the next second, i can be smart but also so incredibly dumb, i can have huge emotions but also be relaxed. i don’t know how i see myself really, it’s hard to tell sometimes. i guess romantic is how i see myself, not in the super flirty way but i value love a lot and i love imagining myself in a relationship. sometimes i’m comfortable with how i act but sometimes i feel like i’m the weirdest person ever 😇 i already said how i want to look to other people, like an angel who everyone loves. i also want to see myself that way, but i have a lot of problems that i need to overcome before i do see myself that way.

11. ⁠How do you organize your thoughts? What are concepts and ideas to you? How do you navigate through such a hazy frightening future? What do you believe are the most important questions one can ask?

ouuu shiii idk. uh i guess i just go with something that i’ve seen work before? i try to stick to the one thing that is proven to work, anything outside the box is kinda too confusing or too unpredictable and could go work so i’d prefer to keep to rules and stuff. i guess abstract concepts and ideas are cool? i don’t personally like them a bunch but it’s whatever to be honest shrug. i’d just rather the world to be viewed super easily like “here this is the meaning of your life handed to you, now you don’t have to do all this exploring and figuring out your life because THIS is what you’re meant to do!” i like the sound of that 🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️🙂‍↕️ i lowkey just trust that things will play out correctly in the future, i’d like to explore things but it takes so much energy that i’d rather just wait until my life just unfolds by itself. i don’t like this last question it makes no sense so i’m not answering okay.

I am attempting to be more active on this subreddit but not like a "Help me type myself!" more of a so "Your type is probably ___" and i'm curious on how people actually type others so accurately.

(i am also attempting to type a character i really relate to but i dont know anything to do for that so...)

If you can, please explain how through comments. Thank you in advance!

(PS i have ADHD and may forget the sentence while reading so uh but saying you read is still acceptable!! ok!)