u/SillyGirlMoi

When I was 8 and my sister was 9 our mom began molesting us and teaching us to do things with her and together. She called it our "girls' times." A few months later our 'girls' time' changed when she began also teaching us to do things with our dad, so it became 'family fun.' They groomed us to think that it was just some private family fun that some families do, so we never really understood that it was abuse, and as my sister and I developed HS we'd also initiate it often either with them or with each other. And since our parents had a few close friends who were also abusing their kids, we saw that and it further reinforced the idea that it was just fun stuff that some families did together.

Now that I'm older (23), I certainly do consider what they did to us abuse and it was wrong for them to do all those things. However, I can't lie and say that it traumatized me, and that's really confusing.

Does anyone else feel this way?

I (23f) remember things started when I was around 9. My mom began teaching me about "girl stuff" and used those times as opportunities to molest me. She gave me my first orgasms, which obviously felt good but I would always feel kind of dirty afterwards. She did the same things with my sister.

Not long after that started, my dad began doing things with my sister and me as well. They would both do stuff to my sister and me together. My dad eventually took our virginities and then continued abusing us regularly.

Everything went on for a long time and neither I nor my sister ever told anyone. It messed with us a lot and I'm still dealing with the after effects of it.