Is it common for gay men to attend a gay community meet up?
I'm from a culture where LGBTQ+ is not very accepted. (It's getting more open than before to LGBT communities here nowadays, but still not on the level of typical queer friendly countries.) So I kinda have to keep it low that I'm gay or that I have a boyfriend.
And you know gay men from the countries where same sex marriage has not been legalized tend to be scared of being left alone when they are old. (At least many people around me think like this.) Meanwhile, straight people marry and have a baby some day. Married and unmarried are considered to drift away like you're in another world.
For this kind of reasons, my ex-boyfriend said he wanted to keep in touch with and meet gay people he knew as a friend, and I didn't understand why he had to do that when he had me. I got to think like he didn't find it enough to spend time with me. And he said I would always be the only one he loves and didn't want to break up with me. Otherwise, I told him my own criteria and it was I didn't want him to meet a gay person 1:1. He had even told me that he doesn't like to meet people 1:1, and admitted that counts as cheating. After all I figured out he met a "friend" while he kept texting me saying he was at home all day working on some project. Prior to this , he used Tinder and I forgived him because there was a situation I might have leave this country. On top of what happened before, I broke up with him.
After we broke up, I met and kept in touch with some Tinder matches. And one of them told me he only lives in gay communities because he's scared if his straight friends leave him if they marry because if then he would be left alone.
What do you think about these conflicting criterias? Would you be okay with your boyfriend attending gay community when you guys are together? Or even catching up someone one on one without you knowing?
My ex-boyfriend is saying that I'm still the only one he will love forever and he loves me so much. And he's desiring to compromising my criteria and get back together. Otherwise, he's been accessing Tinder after we broke up. I want to know you guys' thoughts, and hopefully get advices to make a wise decision.