r/gaysian

I've been in a committed relationship with my boyfriend for about one year - we are compatible in many great ways. When it comes to our sex life, neither of us is particularly horny but we do like to show each other affection. I get hard easily; he doesn't as much. But we generally don't have trouble getting each other off.

My boyfriend is more of a nonverbal guy, but generally we communicate well. But I wonder sometimes whether he's really happy with our sex life - whether it's enough, whether he's physically attracted, and whether he wants more. He always says he's satisfied, but I don't get the sense that he's hot for me all the time. And that's fine - I'm completely happy with his body, and I enjoy being naked and intimate with him, even when we don't ... well... cum. I'm a top and he's bottom but he doesn't love anal and frankly I don't need to do it every time. We like each other's cocks. And I'd say we have good sexual chemistry - I love how he smells, I love how his body feels, and I love our mental and emotional connection.

I'd love to hear what you guys think about sexual satisfaction in your relationships - current, past, or aspirational/future. What keeps you interested? What would you consider good sex? Do you lose the spark after a while? How do you show that you're still very into a guy/partner/husband/etc?

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A few days ago i saw a tik tok or a reel where the a top was like fucking / humping the bottom in a missionary position and he was constantly saying thank you with every thrust . It got me so turned on but i could not find any more reels like that or dont know what it is called . Can you help ?

I'm from a culture where LGBTQ+ is not very accepted. (It's getting more open than before to LGBT communities here nowadays, but still not on the level of typical queer friendly countries.) So I kinda have to keep it low that I'm gay or that I have a boyfriend.

And you know gay men from the countries where same sex marriage has not been legalized tend to be scared of being left alone when they are old. (At least many people around me think like this.) Meanwhile, straight people marry and have a baby some day. Married and unmarried are considered to drift away like you're in another world.

For this kind of reasons, my ex-boyfriend said he wanted to keep in touch with and meet gay people he knew as a friend, and I didn't understand why he had to do that when he had me. I got to think like he didn't find it enough to spend time with me. And he said I would always be the only one he loves and didn't want to break up with me. Otherwise, I told him my own criteria and it was I didn't want him to meet a gay person 1:1. He had even told me that he doesn't like to meet people 1:1, and admitted that counts as cheating. After all I figured out he met a "friend" while he kept texting me saying he was at home all day working on some project. Prior to this , he used Tinder and I forgived him because there was a situation I might have leave this country. On top of what happened before, I broke up with him.

After we broke up, I met and kept in touch with some Tinder matches. And one of them told me he only lives in gay communities because he's scared if his straight friends leave him if they marry because if then he would be left alone.

What do you think about these conflicting criterias? Would you be okay with your boyfriend attending gay community when you guys are together? Or even catching up someone one on one without you knowing?

My ex-boyfriend is saying that I'm still the only one he will love forever and he loves me so much. And he's desiring to compromising my criteria and get back together. Otherwise, he's been accessing Tinder after we broke up. I want to know you guys' thoughts, and hopefully get advices to make a wise decision.

If you were robbed or assaulted during a Grindr hookup abroad — even in a non-gay-friendly Muslim country — would you report it to the local police immediately?

This is an official Serbian police document called a “Službena beleška o obaveštenju primljenom od građana” — an “Official note about information received from a citizen. This is a formal police record documenting my report of an assault/threat incident in Belgrade.

A week ago, I was assaulted and threatened by three homophobic Serbian men who posed as plainclothes police officers raiding a public toilet in central Belgrade. They had clearly identified the venue as a known gay meeting point and were deliberately targeting gay men. I reported the incident to the nearest police station straight away and am currently waiting for an update from their investigation.

I'd like to hear from others who may have faced something similar. Have you ever encountered fake police raids used as cover for attacking gay men? And for those of us traveling as foreigners, what practical steps can we take to protect ourselves in situations like this?

Canadian. Planning out my fall 2026 schedule and I’m debating Taipei Pride. Don’t think there’s a thread yet but if there is, lmk