I keep seeing instances online of where its being depicted like some 1950s segration or something along those lines, I’ve been looking into this city cause I just finished highschool but idk if I’d feel welcomed as a Latino guy with the amount of stories I’ve seen, welcomed to be disproven tho
I was looking for lgbt friendly cities to move into and people have been recommending Chicago online consistently for its walkability and affordability compared to other major cities, can anyone testify for this?
im 18 and come from a small town (think endless cornfields) so im very eager to make my move but im nervous about the social situation there, i want to meet other guys but most of the recommendations are just bars and I probably cant go there legally atleast, is there any spaces or events where it’s permissible for younger gays to mingle?
advice welcomed
Idk where else to post this to get advice for this, I don’t have any friends I can share this with and my family wouldn’t approve of it either, it’s so tough having to be gay.
Ive had many friends that are girls who were interested in me and I loved them as friends, my parents wouldnt mind that if we did get together but that isn’t me at all. I’ve tried over and over for countless years trying to numb it or silence that part of me, I’ve had a feeling I was gay ever since preschool, I’d only get butterflies from boys in my class and none from girls, it’s been so lonely and agonizing trying to live with this.
I don’t hate my parents either I love them and I would still love them even if they do reject me, I would give up on romantic love for the rest of my life to keep them if I could and that’s how much I love them and it’s so fucking despair inducing to realize that someday I will have to choose between them or a lover.
ive done some really bad things that I’d get banned for even mentioning to get those feelings to stop ever since i was 13- till now that im 18 because even worse is that i probably won’t even be able to experience it anyway it was so hard to see that in middle school some dude had a bf and i didnt despite how much i was suffering (not that i deserve one), i live in a very small town so even liking guys in the first place is essentially useless i wish i was born as some sort of asexual or ace variant so atleast this pain wouldn’t inflict on me even worse, this is the first time I’ve ever told this to anybody other than myself.
my parents would see me crying and try to consolidate me but it hits like a truck when they are the ones I didnt want to disappoint, they are strict Christians and they are my favorite people in the world but they still condemn sodomy, and it’s always so fun until I realize I still like guys it’s like my own body is betraying me in the worst way possible, they’d probably try and exorcise me with a pastor or something.
being gay has never felt like something prideful to me, it’s only brought pure undiluted misery it doesn’t matter if it is natural because we live in a world where its considered trash, it keeps me up at night like a horrible nightmare until I’m left with tears on my pillow in the morning so now these days I just try and forget what I am, I’m more happier without it but I don’t know how long I can keep that up.
(18) idk if it’s just me but it’s so alien to see that when a dude hookups with someone with a bigger size than them does it not make them insecure? or really just when they are superior in other aspects like good looks, height, etc, i mean i can’t even feel attraction to men anymore the only thing in my head is competition when I see another guy it would feel so degrading to even consider someone better than me