Im '35M' girlfriend '36F' a mom of 3 two boys one girl '7M' '11M' '18F' suffers from bpd. I met her in 2023 at work . We hit it off been together for 4 years Like instantly fire. I know its uncommon for two people to connect almost instantly but can this be the rare exception?. Feels like im in constant state of walking on eggshells. Everything i say theres an issue. Im a very honest and blunt man and my opinions are always pure true never ill intentions. I was cut from the cloth of honesty even if it hurts always remain honest. She has a legit issue with most things I do and dont if my opinion aligns with her own. I should stress that we live together and shes a divorcee and ive bever been married or have any children of my own. Im also very introverted and she being extroverted and I dont mean to be all over the place just giving a back drop and general understanding of where I am.

She has constant episodes of splitting, love bombing , then BAM! Back to square one. This has been going on for 4 years. We split in 2024 for 10months then we reconciled summer of 25. For her credit she has improved her mental but not enough for my standards. I just dont know if I can continue. Im exhausted and god knows I try every day. Her kids are bratty and whiny and I personally do not like her son hes very disrespectful 11 year old. they are very very very sensitive so even dealing with them its a battle. When I moved in I did all the cleaning and the cooking and guess what I still do. I just paid a $600 dollar light bill by myself . When I try to lead the house to bring maitenance and structure to the house she battles me on that. Ladies and gentlemen its just so much with this woman. And I can go on.. I just dont know what to do. Thinking of renlisting to escape.... im overwhelmed . What am to do?