She Had Another Dude the Whole Time
Always heard about these stories, first time it’s ever happened to me. Meet a girl online, says she’s a single mom, poor and the baby daddy abandoned her when she found out she was pregnant. Im very cautious but we FaceTime, and I can see at first all of this is true. Shes beautiful, genuine connection, wow, amazing.
Then she starts asking for money, I make 100x what she needs in a month, I give. But I turn into an ATM, we fight, she backs down, problem better. Then I find out she talks to other dudes on the dating site still. Fight, argue, she stops. (I really think she did)
Months go by and heck, I go to see her. Mixed signals - one side she is so excited I meet her family and friends and it’s a good meeting, other side I still can’t nail down for sure if we have a real relationship or if I am a bank card. Mixed signals.
Go home, keep talking, find out yesterday she has a secret Facebook (she made a Facebook for her baby is how I found it). When I opened the baby’s Facebook page he only had a few friends and one of them had his last name, it was the dad.
I cracked his profile open for a look and low and behold another profile with the same name posting love letters on each others profile for months of open record. Sexual, romantic, playful, all of it. All the way up to May 19th being the last date. Literally since before we’ve dated.
Confronted her on it and she lied until I forced her to admit she still loves him but he has another family - Im guessing they still meet up for boom boom based on their messages but she promises she hasn’t. Anyways, there it is.
Cheating is normal but what I couldn’t understand was she told me she wanted me to be a father to her son, he needs a dad, we could get married, all that. With dying devotion and submission - the level of this sort of lying is something Ive never seen in my life. It truly is something I couldn’t imagine and played me hard.
Ive not only never been cheated on (to my knowledge I guess) but never experienced anything even close to this level of deception having dated both in the USA and Asia over 15 years, what on earth is going on???