u/SingularestBean

TW: MENTIONS OF R-PE, MENTAL DISORDERS ETC HOWEVER NOT IN DEEP DETAIL

First of all, I want to thank you for selecting my post. This one will be quite long, so if you can't be bothered to read it all, there should be a TL;DR at the end. However, I recommend reading it all just to get the entirety of what's happening.

This has been going on since late February 2026 (however some of what's happened does go further back eg into 2025 and 2024, which I will state), until now, and the ongoing future likely. I'm 15, and so are the rest of my friends. Since this subreddit says that you can't have their irl names, these names will all be different to what they really are.

People:

I am involved in this, but my name shouldn't be brought up.

Cierra - main girl who's going all the bad things (I was friends with her since mid 2023)

Ivy - one of my friends (since 2023)

Eva - one of my friends (since late 2023)

Reece - my boyfriend (since mid 2023)

Gray - my bsf (since mid 2025)

Mack - on and off friend (since 2018)

Dave - Eva's ex bf (dated since mid 2024-early 2026)

Ayden - Cierra's ex bf (dated since mid 2025-mid April 2026)

Lee - Ivy's ex bf (dated since mid Oct 2025- late March 2026)

Jack - Cierra's ex bf (dated early 2024-mid 2025)

Starting off in 2024

This was when me and Cierra were considered best friends, and we were incredibly close. We would either be hanging out or sleeping at each other's house each weekend. We were basically inseperable. Sometime during that year, Cierra started dating Jack.

Everyone in our friend group liked Jack - he was nice however but kind of weird occasionally.

During this time, (which I wasn't aware of) Cierra was shit talking me, saying that I go onto romeet and flirting with people - which I didn't - she was the one who was doing it. And her boyfriend's friend had a dream that I r----ed my boyfriend which is a weird dream and seems weird for me to bring up, but you will see why I brought it up later on.

Obviously, I wasn't aware of this at all. I can however mention that Jack and Cierra were sexually active together from the age of 13 - which again doesn't seem like necessary context until later on.

Cierra had severe mental issues, including an ed, sh, anxiety and likely more that she was diagnosed with in 2025. But others in the group had stuff too - I wasn't diagnosed but I had body issues and I would sh, so would Ivy and Eva.

2025

In early 2025, some of Cierra's true colours started to come out and she would try to shit talk about Ivy and Eva to me which I wouldn't engage with anything she was saying. She would also shit talk about a girl our age who got understudy in our school show, saying how bad she is at singing, and would egg us on to say bad about her too. Half of me doing it was also because she convinced me this girl had bad intentions with my boyfriend because they had a thing in year 7 and year 8.

In early 2025 as well, my mother had a heart attack the day before my birthday and she supported me throughout a lot of that, picking me up from the hospital etc, which I was incredibly grateful for, however it turns out during the time she would shit talk me saying "she needs to get over it etc" like babes my mum nearly died give me a break.

We did the 40 hour challenge tied up together, which apparently she didn't want to actually do and hated it - where she could've easily said no or suggested something else.

Nothing much happened until mid 2025, when Cierra and Jack broke up. I'm sure I learnt why however it was so long ago I don't recall it.

She then started saying that Jack r---d her, which we believed, because we were supportive friends. Saying he was super toxic etc.

Now, this is where things start to go downhill. Two weeks later, she starts dating Ayden, a boy she had previously called "ugly" and "annoying" etc, which came as a big shock to all of us, and personally pissed me off because a few days ago she was crying over Jack.

Ayden was alright, apart from one of his friends being absolutely insane - he would watch p-n at school, etc. Ayden was also friends with Eva's boyfriend, Dave who I haven't mentioned yet but I guess I should now. They started dating a couple of weeks after Cierra and Jack started dating in 2024.

I however said some stuff about Ayden to some of my friends saying that he was a rebound etc which wasn't false.

Cierra and Ayden immediately became incredibly touchy, making out IN SCHOOL, etc. I recommended to Cierra not to have sex with him until she was incredibly sure that she really really loved him because I was concerned for her (which she told Eva and Ivy about, saying I was controlling etc when I was just looking out for her, she proceeded to have sex with him 3 weeks into the relationship). A little while later, I and my friends were about to go to this thing for school all together, and me and Ivy had walked all the way to Cierra's house so we could walk with her (Eva only lived a 10 minute walk away so we all decided to meet at Cierra's).

Since me and Cierra had a fairly jokey friendship, I called her and told her "hurry up and stop sucking your boyfriend's dih" to which she seemed frustrated and sighed and told me to shut up. I felt embarrassed, because the joke did not land and the friendship never felt right after that.

All throughout after that, whenever I would try to hang out with her or call her, she would always be busy with her boyfriend etc.

Then, someone new joined my core classes at school, Gray, and we immediately became close friends - and instead of waiting for Cierra to be hang out with me, I would hang out with Gray instead - because exactly why would I sit and wait like a hopeless puppy for someone who clearly didn't want to hang out with me.

That's when the shit talking about me really started to happen. She would tell Eva and Ivy how much she didn't like that me and Gray were friends, how annoying I am etc. I would've never said anything about her like that. I found this out early this year.

Then, at school camp all she did was cuddle and make out with her boyfriend, even while we were eating dinner which was plain disgusting. She would purposefully disinclude me from things, even though I tried including her in things.

During the summer holidays, we only hung out once, which was plain sad compared to the previous summer holidays (keep in mind this was December, I'm in NZ). I started talking to Gray about how I was slightly glad that me and Cierra weren't as close anymore, because she never prioritized me, and to be friends with someone it has to go both ways.

2026

On New Year's Eve, Cierra complained on the gc that she was having a sleepover with Ayden but they were in different rooms - to which a lot of us responded with that she should be happy that she could have a sleepover at all, which clearly pissed her off.

In early January, she had a combined birthday party with Ayden, which I, my boyfriend and Gray weren't invited to. I only learnt about this a few months later, and her excuse was that my boyfriend told her that her and Ayden need to calm down on the PDA (which she deflected and said me and him used to do much worse, which isn't true) and Gray wasn't invited because Ayden's mum didn't know who he was. We now figure it was because Reese pissed her off with what he said, and she didn't like that me and Gray were such good friends.

Finding this out really hurt me because I hate being left out, and she knew that perfectly well. During this time, Eva and Dave broke up with each other, which came as a shock (they broke up because Dave groped Eva, which she didn't like).

Once school started, we made Shakespeare groups (for a drama competition) and Cierra reluctantly put me and Gray in the group with the others. Immediately on the first group meeting for Shakespeare, Cierra was immediately like "I don't want to do Macbeth again" even though we group voted on which scene and which play we wanted to do from the selected ones Eva and Ivy found because Cierra was being no help. She was the only one who voted on something else - and it was by majority anyway. She was having this big tantrum, refusing every role we were trying to give her, verbally abusing us to the point where Ivy started crying. The only excuse Cierra would use was "I have literally no time" and "my mental health's really bad at the moment" which yes, prioritise your mental health, but maybe also don't prioritize your boyfriend for once? He's the reason you have literally zero time.

That following lunch, Cierra took me aside and said that Eva and Ivy have been shit talking her for the longest time (even though it was reversed) and that she hopes she could stay friends with me etc.

I decided to go half and half, but that following afternoon I had a big call with Ivy and Eva and Ivy's boyfriend, Lee who was best friends with Ayden. They spilled that Cierra didn't invite me to her bday party for a petty reason, while Cierra was messaging me asking if I hate her etc and trying to convince me that Eva and Ivy are bad people.

Once I confronted her about me not being invited to her bday party which I honestly wasn't super sad about, I was more upset that she didn't include me even though she knew exactly how much that sort of thing hurts me - to which she blamed her communication skills etc.

A few weeks later, Ivy and Eva told me about some of the stuff she said about me eg how she didn't like that I got a nose piercing and dyed my hair, I became "alt", friends with Gray, how me and my boyfriend were super loud, and how I wear so much makeup and how she's so natural so that makes her so much better. I was going to confront her about all these things, however she had already blocked me on everything.

And also, how my boyfriend had apparently r---d me and she told so many people.

Her explanation for the friendship break up was that Eva and Ivy had called Ayden ugly (as a joke), Ivy had copied and was faking Cierra's eating disorder (which isn't true), and so many other things. Genuinely just saying that someone copied a very common mental disorder from you is insane.

After that, everything was fairly mild except for her boyfriends weird friend and Eva's ex would gag every time we came past and yell the f slur at us, and would smash bottles near we would hang out.

During the April school holidays, Cierra and Ayden broke up. Cierra was fairly quiet, and everything seemed okay. We obviously didn't talk to her though. Then, during the start of the first term, Dave and Cierra started dating. Our friend, Mack, who had heard about everything that was happening started sitting with both of them in a class just to see if they would say anything about us.

Cierra and Dave were saying that I and my boyfriend r---e eachother. Which is genuinely crazy, and that Ayden r---d her, Eva r----d Dave and so many other crazy r--- allegations. This made us figure that as soon as someone pisses her off, they gets r---- allegations. None of any of her allegations were ever true, including with Jack.

Dave also then said that Eva shoves perfume bottles up her ass which is genuinely so immature, and even if it was true, why would I judge what some else does in their private time.

Yesterday, at school show (night two!) Gray was telling two of his other friends about everything that Cierra had said, while Cierra was right behind them. To which both of them said "so we don't like Cierra?" And the other said "no honey we don't"

Cierra then cried and basically crashed out. Like babes if you didn't want people to not like you maybe you shouldn't tell flat out offensive lies and stuff like that. During show she also keeps on complaining about how much she hates the dresses we have to wear and she's an overall negative nancy.

I want to confront her so bad, but if I do they'll likely know Mack is narking and she'll simply turn it around. I'm honestly stuck for what to do but I'm so fed up.

That's all I have to say for now. Thanks for reading!

TL;DR ex friend is saying r--- allegations and total lies. OP doesn't know what to do. Please read or skim for more detail.

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