Reeling after being told Dad's going to be gone in two days then he rebounds
My dad has been in a memory care unit since February after his dementia and physical issues got too much for him to stay at home with his 87-year-old partner. He finally began adjusting in the last month mostly, even as his health continued to decline. He is now under the auspices of hospice, and hospice doctor predicted in June, after pneumonia bout, that my dad had about six months left. Then, about a week ago, I got an urgent call from hospice nurse to get there asap because his heart rate, oxygen plummeted and looked like he might not last even a few more days. They transferred him to a hospice house. I flew out asap, and by the time I got to him, the same evening, he was eating and smiling, albeit weak. They released him back to memory care unit two days later, and I spent the next few days with him,t hen came home. Now they predict he could last two more months and promise to call when he's getting close. I'm just still reeling from the yo-yo-ing. I already had planned to go in early September and will keep that trip. I feel like I've said my goodbyes many times now because each time I go, I don't know if he'll survive till my next visit. I live states away because he never wanted to leave the state he's in. He's way too weak for a move. THis is so hard. People who know I had to go suddenly and hear he got to go back say to me, "Oh, I'm glad he's doing better." In reality, he is much worse than he was before last Wednesday's incident. It's just that he survived it.