Would I be an asshole if I don't go to my school friends memorial day pool party?
*all names changed to protect privacy*
First off please forgive me for my terrible grammar and whatever else. Anyway,
So my friend from school, Valery (F55) and I (F27), go to school together for advanced skin care. I like her as a person but she kinda has Boomer tendencies that drive me crazy, and it's also just kinda weird for me to have a friend a lot older than me but she's funny and we make each other laugh and have lunch together sometimes, but she's not someone I would naturally gravitate towards. Recently she invited me to her memorial day pool party and that day we have an extra day off from school too, so she knows I'm not doing anything because I've told her when I start my job during the week. But I don't know if I'd be comfortable being around her family and stuff? I'm not really sure who's going but she said one of her son's is going, and her fiancé who she hates of course will be there because its his house, but like what, do I just go and hang out with a bunch of old men n shit and her other older lady friends? Won't they be looking at me like ???? And ill look at them back like ?????? Is this weird or am I overthinking this?
I think I would be less hesitant maybe if I also just enjoyed talking to her more often? Just because there's conversations that we have where I leave feeling invalidated or frustrated because of those boomer tendencies 🙄
I don't think anyone else from class is going or anything either so I'm not sure what to do. And if i don't, how do I say no? 😅 I don't know her that well or how she'll react so yeah. I kind of just want to be honest and say it's not really my thing and I'd feel like the odd one out, and also I'm genuinely not comfy being in a swim suit around people I don't know. I also burn in the sun, 20 minutes and I'm cooked chat. Literally. And yes sun screen (always use your sunscreen 🫵), but for me, being cooked in the sun isn't a very sick experience either way.
I ain't meant for the social life it seems.
Anyway what should I do? Would I be an asshole?