Do women have their own version of the Madonna-Whore/“conquering” complex?
I’ve dated some unstable women and they tend to have issues due to unstable parental models in their childhood and thus seem to have their own version of a sort of Madonna Whore complex with their egos in viewing men putting energy into spending time with her as a measure of successful conquest, much like some men view the act of sex as “conquering”
In their minds they tend to frame the emotionally unavailable guy who is aloof & a bit full of himself as a hard to access target to prove how special she is by having/“conquering” him. Whereas the emotionally available guy who is genuinely solid and always in her corner is seen as common & an easy to access target that is supposedly "easy to win over".
They don't want to invest effort in the emotionally dependable guy because the "game" is already over. He gives her the measure of success for free (sex/will/love) & if they made that difficult, she’d feel like she’s going backwards. They are already conquered. Further, she only can prove she is special now that he is giving it up so easily by how far she can deprive him of what he wants. That becomes how she then measures how “special” she is.