Problems with other godchildren
Hello everyone, a while ago I posted this while I was still an iyawo. I have been studying really hard, learning, participating in ceremonies under the supervision of my Elders. I followed this community's advice and everything was ok for a while...
But then aa lot happened... this other godchild stole from me (again and now in the ile) and from my Godmother's family , he lied about it, he tried to make my Godmother look bad saying she was the thief . She decided to talk to him told him to not come back to the ile. He had an affair with another Godchilds wife from this ile... (this was basically broadcasted on social media) But, guess what?
He came back, asked for forgiveness and he was taken in. My madrina and my Mano de Orula Godfather told him to ask me for forgiveness as well and I told him..well I'll consider forgiving you when I get my stuff or money back.
He is telling other godchildren im trying to black mail him and the Elders know about it (im not, I just believe that if you ask for forgiveness you should accept your mistakes and try to make it up to the person, or at least that's what I do)
I feel very conflicted about this situation. I cannot understand how they allow this to happen but the moment I refuse to talk to him or greet him Im disrespectful and i should be called out . ..because he is a babalawo... yet he is uncapable of behaving like a barely decent person and can't even. Moyubar...
Isn't it more disrespectful to call oneself a priest yet steal, lie, spread rumours and behave like an animal?
I cannot stand this situation. It goes against my beliefs to just respect someone because of the position he holds.. and I don't want to be a part of it. I don't want to be explaining everything to everyone. I don't want to lose my Elders guidance but I dont want to be part of an ile that condones this type of stuff.
I also dont feel like saying anything to my Elders because they are the Elders not me. I have thought about looking for my yubona or the oba oriate and try to learn from them. They belong to other iles related to mine. But I feel like I shouldn't just leave and/or look for guidance elsewhere.
Im too afraid to consult Orisha because what if they say I should leave the ile. I love my religious family so much and I am forever in debt with them because of how much they have taught me helped me etc.
Any advice?