u/Smart-Conflict4752

I’m 5’7 and for the longest time I genuinely felt like I was invisible to girls.

People online always say “height doesn’t matter” but growing up, it never really felt true to me. Every time I opened social media, watched interviews, saw comments, or heard conversations in school, taller guys were always treated differently. They naturally got more attention, more compliments, and seemed way more confident without even trying.

Meanwhile, I constantly overthought everything about myself.

I would stand next to taller friends and immediately feel smaller. Even when I dressed nicely, I still felt like my height ruined the entire outfit. I started avoiding photos, comparing myself to everyone around me, and slowly became insecure about something I literally couldn’t control.

The worst feeling wasn’t even being short itself.

It was feeling like no matter how much effort you put into yourself, someone taller would always be seen as more attractive automatically.

That mindset honestly messed with my confidence for years.

Because of it, I started wearing oversized hoodies and baggy clothes thinking they would somehow make me look bigger, but it actually made me look worse. My outfits swallowed my proportions and made me look even shorter.

Over time though, I slowly realized something important:

I looked my worst when I dressed without understanding my body type.

The moment I started wearing cleaner fitted clothes, shorter-length shirts, straight-fit pants, neutral colors, and outfits that actually matched my proportions, I instantly looked more confident and mature.

I’m still 5’7.

But I realized confidence changes a lot when you stop trying to hide yourself and actually learn what works for you instead.

I still think height matters in dating to some extent and pretending it never matters feels dishonest. But I also think social media exaggerates it so much that shorter guys start believing they have no chance at all, which honestly destroys confidence even more.

Any other short guys here ever feel like this growing up?

Lately I’ve been thinking about how much social media affects confidence, especially for shorter guys.

Everywhere online, it feels like height is treated as the most important thing ever. You open TikTok, Instagram, YouTube comments, or even random memes and there are always jokes about short guys or posts acting like height decides someone’s entire attractiveness.

After seeing that stuff constantly, I honestly started becoming way more insecure about my own height than I used to be.

But in real life, things started feeling completely different.

I noticed people who were confident, well-groomed, funny, social, and took care of themselves still got respected and liked regardless of height. Meanwhile, I also saw taller people who still lacked confidence or struggled socially.

That made me wonder if social media massively exaggerates how important height actually is.

I’m not saying height doesn’t matter at all, because obviously it does to some extent, but I feel like the internet sometimes makes it seem like it’s the ONLY thing that matters when it comes to confidence or attraction.

Has anyone else felt like social media made them more insecure about things they normally wouldn’t even think about in real life?

I used to think my height was the biggest reason I lacked confidence growing up.

Whenever I saw taller guys in school or online, it always felt like they naturally looked more confident and put together without even trying. Meanwhile, I constantly overthought my appearance and compared myself to other people.

But over the last few years, I slowly started noticing something interesting.

Some shorter guys still looked extremely confident and attractive, while some taller people honestly didn’t stand out much at all. That made me realize confidence and overall appearance might depend on way more than just height alone.

I think the way someone presents themselves, carries themselves, and understands what works for them can completely change how they are perceived by others.

For me personally, learning how to present myself better changed my confidence a lot more than obsessing over height ever did.

Do you guys think height is actually the biggest factor in attractiveness/confidence, or do people online exaggerate its importance?