WIBTA if I don’t get back with my ex? Need advice
Hi, I am a 21M. Call me Conrad. My ex is 20F, and we’ll call her Z. Z and I dated for a couple of months. At first, it was nice, but things took a turn. For reference, I grew religious, and I’m passionate about my faith and beliefs. We actually met at church. Some time passed, and she became my first, and when I mean first, actually, girlfriend- first kiss and giving her my virginity. As the relationship went open, things got dicey; she would get a really bad attitude about everything, and I would constantly be made out to be the villain and blamed for it. She would always use her trauma as a reason for her behavior. She grew up real rough; her father died when she was young, which made her have daddy issues, and her mother was no better, causing her real physical, mental, and emotional pain all her life. Now I don't blame her for the pain and trauma, and I get the way she acts sometimes, but it was starting to get to a point where if I did one thing wrong, her whole day was ruined. And we tried to get help and talk to people for advice because I wasn't the greatest boyfriend, and there were things I could do to be better. But it seems like every time we talked, it was always about how I could be better and put in more effort, and she would never actually give me time to improve and learn from my mistakes. She would acknowledge her problems but never do anything about them. Now I know change takes time, but how long do I have to wait?Now, what made me finally end it was her sleeping with someone else. But all of my friends and family are telling me to give her grace, forgive her, and maybe even get back with her, and I don’t know how I feel, or if I even wanna get back with her, because she essentially cheated, and that is an absolute dealbreaker for me. And what I'm kinda pissed about, low-key, is that she's now trying to be better and get a closer relationship with God, which I'm happy about; it's just she would constantly shut me out, and I would try to be there for her in any way I could, but would never meet me halfway.