New here and need help
As the title says, I’m new here and new to admitting I’m married to an alcoholic. My husband is very high functioning, he runs his own successful business, shows up for our child, is fun to be around mostly and no one would ever suspect he drinks a six pack and/or a half bottle of liquor a night. I’ve turned a blind eye for years because he’s so high functioning.
This changed a few months ago when I found a bunch of empty airplane size bottles of liquor in his car. I asked my husband about them and he said it was “no big deal…from a long time ago…only did it once after work…” and that he’d never drink and drive with our child. I believed him.
Yesterday the same thing happened, I was looking for something left in his car and found more - including a larger empty bottle of whiskey. I waited until our child was asleep and then approached my husband again leading with “I love you, I’m concerned” and gave him an out that even if he isn’t drinking and driving our kid around, if he gets pulled over and those are found he could lose everything he’s worked so hard for.
My husband again said it was no big deal and threw out the bottles. He then went to workout in his workout room directly under our bedroom where I could hear him calling me horrible names and calling me a fu@king freeloader over and over again.
I knew he didn’t like me, I’ve known for a long time, but I wasn’t prepared for how much pure hate he has toward me. I’m feeling sick and lost and want to protect my young child more than anything. I dont know where to start.