Been reading a lot of different posts and it seems to be 50/50 where some management companies or doormen don't care at all so want to know about other people's experiences
For context, bf and I have moved in together (been dating for 2 years) and signed a 1-year lease at a very expensive apartment but throughout our time of living together our fights became more frequent. Just want to point out our fights aren't very one-sided we just don't seem to sympathize with each other. When it gets bad, I act defensive, spew mean insults and act emotionally unavailable and he lately he would prioritize his friends' feelings over mine, misrepresent our relationship and use me as a scapegoat to get out of situations since he has a people-pleasing trait. This is something we will talk about in couples therapy though and isn't really relevant to the question I have.
Regarding the living situation, I don't make as much money as him so I would never be able to pay the entire rent myself. Because of our fights, we talked about how maybe separation might be for the best but we never really entertained the idea since we still really wanted to be together. I was the one who brought up how I should move out and he was super opposed and upset with the idea and suggested to wait it out till the lease ends so I agreed.
Then around 8 months in he was touring for apartments at a neighborhood I mentioned I was interested in because it was quaint and he gave the impression that he was touring with me in mind as if we would be living together but I shortly found out he was just exploring his options in case. I brought this up to him because I was panicking about how it made me upset but he reassured me that he wouldn't go through with it and just wanted to commit to the tour appointments just to check out the area and if he ever did decide to move out he would let me know every step of the way.
Shortly after we had a terrible fight and on that night I was taking a walk to cool myself down while he impulsively (his exact phrasing) signed the lease. I wasn't aware of this until 3 days later which I will get to soon. After I came home we made amends and he reassured me that we will continue to make it work. 3 days later of what I thought was us repairing our relationship I pried a little and he admitted to telling me he signed a lease and sent the deposit over yesterday and he would have to move out in the next 3 weeks. I was just shocked but he kept reiterating that it was to be expected since we fought a lot but I always argued how it was the lack of transparency and feeling abandoned that hurt the most. He would still pay his fair share of the rent until the current lease is up but I don't know if I can forgive him still.
During those few weeks before he had to move out he went from being hopeful of our relationship to becaming more vague about the future and hinted how I should be with someone else and he should focus on being a better person then said that he just wanted it to end on a good note. I like even the last few weeks where it felt the most important and vulnerable was all just fake and he was just prioritizing himself yet again so I couldn't handle it and booked a hotel until he officially left. During his move-out he did a whole 180 and became super emotional saying he can't live without me and wants to do couples therapy and make it work, etc but it's hard to trust him since I feel like signing a lease is such a huge step and feels selfish since I'm at a huge disadvantage. It has been a few months since he has moved out and I keep switching between forgiving him and never wanting to forgive him and trust him for this. Would like some input.
EDIT: I shared with him this post. We are trying couples therapy next week since it has been on his mind for a while whether it makes or breaks. It seems he regrets moving at all and really wants to make it work