Toller sensitivity / reactivity / other
Hi , somewhat against my apprehension my ex and I got a toller. Fast forward and I am a single dog owner of 1 yr. 7 month male toller living on the outskirts of a city. I try to give my toller sufficient exercise and attention but I also have social plans and sometimes it would be easier to take him with me. However, every time I try to do this it becomes this meltdown for him and therefore me. Going to the cafe he will become impatient and start pulling in every direction . A bar near a road he will start digging all the grout and then barking at other dogs and then eventually triggers (that we have been training and successfully ignoring). A new road may make him become overstimulated . Let's not even talk about taking him to a new city . He enters this zone where he is completely untrainable. He lunges towards every impulse without fully commiting to one and then lunges towards the other . You can't capture his attention and even force sitting with him and trying to just reward him for being calm doesn't work. I did socialize him as a puppy to all these things but even as a puppy he was not chill enough in these environments . I attributed it to him being a puppy but the behavior continues and in a worsened fashion. Currently my life is split between his needs and walks having to be completely separate than my own causing me to be very spread thin.
I am open to considering training but I am curious as to if there is a ceiling to his abilities because of some of the quirks of the breeds? How much of this will he age out of ? Will tollers always remain a bit sensitive and overstimulated ? I am willing to give this my all but at some point it becomes that many facets of my life I am living my life around my dog and that is not sustainable to me.