u/SnowApprehensive3578

hello there! Newbie in d&d here, and I am playing in a d&d discord server, and want to chat our DM regarding my character's lore and ask him all bunch of questions. But I'm shy to ask them since they already have a lot on their plate and my character is already complicated enough. The last conversation that I had with our DM was informing him on what I wanna do that one time my character went unconscious after the battle, and they asked as to why my character has a lot of trauma, and I answered that I don't know. Mainly because my character's backstory and lore is already traumatizing enough, then another traumatic event happened to my character and I wanted to play into that.

Then my DM wanted to clarify a few things with me, and I think they are already frustrated with me so I really shied away from asking them any more questions and just thanked them. And then proceeded to ask if I need to lessen my character's trauma, basically rebuild my character's backstory and lore, then no reply from our DM. I asked another question a few days after, but I was met with the same no reply from our DM.

This is my first time, so I don't know if I'm playing it wrong since the beginning of character creation and our session zero.

Is our DM frustrated with me? Should I not bother him with my questions anymore? Are questions about my character's lore and backstory irrelevant? Should I just trust our DM in what they wanna do with my character? Should I apologize? Or should I just keep asking about my character, and risk it?

Hello! I recently joined this d&d discord server and I am new to the game, and a lot of the people there are very welcoming. But there is this one user that, at first I vibe with, but then I noticed that they don't interact with me the same way they interact with other discord users in that server. They have the same demeanor of chat towards others but when it comes to me it almost feel like their chat style is just forced inclusion of me being in there for the server just so the other users doesn't know about it. Whenever others share memes or shit post, they would react like it was genuinely funny, but when I try to do the same it has been cold and they don't interact with my post or whatnot. I dunno Am I overthinking that they don't like me, or is there another reason behind it? What are your thoughts about this.

Update: Naging magkasama kami sa isang game on several ocassions, medjo lively sya maglaro at yung character nya is di tlaga maiiwasan makipag interact sa character ko. I get that you need to separate the character from the person playing, kaso the character dynamics are REALLY making me assume they're just unleashing whatever they have beef with me onto our characters, making them either fight or miscommunicate a lot. I dunno, I love playing the game since this is my first time being included in an online server who plays D&D in a longrun-type instead of those one-shots I'm used to, but at the same time I feel like I wanna leave because of this particular user and how they treat me in-character and out-of-character.