Their refusal to accept help equals my nightmare
My dad was diagnosed 2 years ago and I started having panic attacks, which I got medication & therapy for. My parents spend half the year down south and last year my mom didn't want to go--she's caring for him alone and has no support system there--but she went back anyway because he wanted to. I thought we were totally over the notion of him driving and learned yesterday that she allowed him to drive "just a few blocks." I told her he still could have hurt someone. They are back now (up north where I live.) He's 86; she's 85. I found a great companion care option for them but my mom is hemming and hawing. When I think about spending another summer and beyond worrying about them, watching my mom white knuckle through doing everything for him alone and refuse help it makes me want to run for the hills. I can't keep watching this and they won't accept help and dont seem to know or care that if they won't do it for themselves could they do it for my brother and I who are beside ourselves with worry and anxiety about this untenable situation. (I did say something to my mom about it today, to no effect.)
I don't know what to do; it's ruining my mental health