u/SoftFudge253

So please forgive me for being in a bit of a cynical mindset at the moment but I do think I deserve to be like this after the year I’ve had lol.

So DH ended up blocking MIL after her latest rant about me, reaching out to my family, and her trying to blackmail him some more. She loves to refer to “keeping his secrets” when it’s a situation she doesn’t know about but makes assumptions and I already know about.

Husband let FIL know he blocked her and FIL went on a rant about how she’s trying to make up but I’m making it clear I don’t want to reconcile and he knows I’m going to make him cut off his whole family. His choice words were “these dayum females”.

After this I wrestled with my conscience and decided to text her to let her know I just want space and that I’m not trying to take DH from the family or her. I got no response and, come to find out, FIL has blocked me on Facebook so now we’ve come full circle.

I don’t get it they wanted me to contact her but when I do I get blocked? I think my calmness of reaching out didn’t fit her narrative of me so they imploded. I’m just not sure what to do. They are tearing their own family apart to continue to blame me. I know it’s not mine to fix but I don’t know how to fix it.

Background because I do get questions: she’s called ravenclaw mil because that’s what a lot of people would refer to her as on my first few posts because she used the fact that I’m a ravenclaw (the only thing she knew about me) to say I was conniving and manipulative.

So she has threatened to come up and see me while my husband is deployed to “fix” our relationship. I’m completely NC and husband has just blocked her this morning. My grandpa, who is a retired psychologist, messaged me this morning saying she reached out to him and it sent off alarm bells. He had friended her when I first started dating my now husband but he’s never interacted with her.

She was basically asking about my childhood because she knows I have wayyy younger siblings and was asking if I was raised as an only child (I was not I have siblings around my age too) and that she wants to know more about me so we can build a better relationship with me before her son gets back from overseas because I should be having her grandbabies soon.

I have made a post on Facebook just warning friends and family not to give information out about me without airing all the dirty laundry. She is a very vain woman so, if this keeps up, I will post all screenshots I have on here to my Facebook where her family can see. I just don’t know what else I should be doing. I know she only wants this info to use against me because she likes throwing my family into arguments which is why she got her phone number blocked.

I have the FU folder in case I need to call police if she shows up and I know I can’t control who she reaches out to I’m just frantic at the moment. DH has sent a message to FIL but no response yet as he’s probably busy tearing her a new one.

Any additional advice would be so appreciated

So MIL went on a rant about me to husband again. She told him she invited me to SILs graduation and I’m ignoring her and her heart is broken. Husband let her know she knows she’s blocked because I told her before I blocked her. He told her to stop with this narrative because she’s playing the victim and hasn’t apologized for anything (love that man). She went on with her one sided essays to herself in his inbox again about the usual stuff. There was some good news though! I got uninvited from holidays until this is “solved” lol.
I am slightly concerned though as I’m obviously home alone and 9 hours away from them but she did vaguely hint that she was going to come up here because it needs to be solved in person. What’s some advice if she comes knocking at the door?

Also y’all know the screenshots are on my page 😌 if I had to read it, someone else does too.
Thank you all in advance. I’ve never dealt with this kind of crazy before