I have 9 years experience, specifically in fintech and I’m a black, female ux designer.
I’ve never had an issue finding work before. Usually my cv gets me into the door pretty easily but now I can’t even get a first interview.
I don’t understand what’s happening. I’m getting rejected outright for positions that align perfectly.
I (36F) really just needed to say that out-loud. In the beginning I tried to do everything for them (12F, 9F). But their mothers are crazy witches and have caused me so much trauma by now that I have lost whatever good feelings is left inside me to care anymore. My husband and I both have two kids (he has 2 girls, I 2 boys) my kids live with us Monday to Friday and go to their respective parents on weekends. His daughter will come every second weekend and the other once a year, since she lives in another country.
I lost a set of twin girls before I met him and felt like this was a way for me to have those daughters I always wanted. But we weren’t even dating for a month when the harassment started. His ex and her sisters started posting about us, stalking our socials, writing all sorts of smack on the internet, dming my family and friends. Posting our pictures online tagging the business, chatting to our clients. Just a shit show of harassment for about 2 years now. I applied for a protection order which was granted, it didn’t stop. So now the family is about to get arrested and his daughter from UK sends me messages “I’m pathetic”, “my dad is with you for your money”, “he is just being fake with you”. So I blocked her, because what she’s doing also violated the court order and I really don’t want to include that in the upcoming trial.
I’m exhausted. Our one year anniversary of our wedding has come up and I genuinely don’t feel like celebrating. My husband is my best friend and he’s always a 100% support. He loves me the way no one has ever loved me. He supports me financially after I lost my job, and takes care of my boys. I couldn’t have asked for a better man. But his exes are determined to see him broken. Maybe it’s because he left them, and seeing him with me, being everything they wanted is hard. But get over it, I don’t give a shit what my exes are doing! I can 200% understand why he ran away from them.
I’m exhausted. But I don’t regret getting that protection order. Even if it means his kids hate me forever. I don’t even sleep at night anymore just waiting for the next attack.