My dad threatens to kick me out whenever I don't give him what he wants.
I'm a 19 year old female, my dad is 48/49? To get an idea on me and my father's history, basically my dad used to not have anything at all before he got power and money hungry. It was originally because he obviously needed to make sure the family was stable in the future financially. But over time he became financially successful and thinks he can get anything he wants. I, have cleaned the house every single day, I mop, vacuum, sweep, do the dishes, I would make sure the dog was taken care of, I'd pick up the countless amounts of trash and dishes that were left out. Every day. I also had to stop my plans or reschedule my own plans if they needed me to babysit. Which I never had a problem with. But overtime it got very upsetting when I would have to cancel my own plans for them when I would mention and have conversations multiple times about needing at least a day of in advance. Also, I live rent free but I pay for my school, car, insurance etc. I also have moved out twice due to emotional and mental health issues. My dad and I used to clash a lot when I was younger, my feelings and opinions were not valued because I was a "kid". But I do a lot for the house and family and the only person who doesn't make me feel like crap is lyda. My stepmom. She's the mediator and also disagrees with a lot of the things my dad feels but- no one really has a say, he makes more money so he gets to run the house. I understand the mentality of that since he's the foundation, but when the foundation is a ahole with an ego bigger than his own head, no one wants to live in that house. Recently things have been a bit more stressful, I had to switch my job, I was able to pay what I needed for bills and everything seemed fine. But my dad has ocd and he constantly thinks the worst is gonna happen so he would just yell at me, and made sure I knew to not slack every day even if I wasn't. He would bring up the same conversations, I couldn't sleep for too long or else he would get upset, he's just a narcissist. Just. I don't see my mom ever. My dad took me from my mom in the past and there were reasonable reasons for that to happen. But things have changed and I am an adult and that was years ago. And basically my aunt just died and my mom and I plan to hang out together and then this happens. Can somebody tell me if this dude is crazy and what I should do. I've honestly dealt with this so much I'm just getting sick and tired. I normally don't reply like this at all, I normally disagree and say I'm sorry to whoever I cancel plans with just because the relationship is basically ran by fear and power. But yeah he is doing that thing where he's threatening to kick me out because I can't babysit the day of.
Update: For more context. I have moved out twice but he has had me come back or my mom lost her house. My mom doesn't have a better living situation and she also has issues. I promise if my mom was better I would. My mom expects things from me randomly, and also has outages like my dad but she doesn't talk to me the way he does. Same thing, different font. My mom is like a teenager in an adult's body, I'm more mature than her and she doesn't make good financial decisions and she lies a lot and manipulates others. Not always but she does and I still love her and we still spend time together, just living together was hell. I'm just being honest. Both of my parents are pretty wacky but if I wanna be stable at least physically I'd have to stay at my dad's or find a place to go, but I don't have anyone sadly, I also have college bills so I can't rent anything. I just wanted to see if I was genuinely alone because he makes me very depressed.