u/SourceDisastrous5235

I 25F have lived in America my whole life but my family migrated from Russia in the 90s. I grew up going to Slavic churches and I’ve been around a lot of Russian communities throughout the states. Now in our culture, it’s generally normal to get married young, (maybe for religious groups especially) and me being 25 is considered getting old for still not being married. I haven’t had a lot of luck dating Russians, I’ve had some options but generally my friends had a lot more attention and all got married early twenties. My sister told me that although I’m pretty my body type is just “unique” for Russian men’s standards. I’m 5’8” and I have an athletic build, my body’s frame is larger than petite but I’m not overweight. I find it easier to find dates with men who are not Russian, I don’t mind finding a life partner outside of my culture but I do find it sad that it will create a language barrier with my parents. So my question is, is it true Russian men’s standard are petite small women and will it make it harder, not exactly impossible, but difficult for me find a Russian man who will find me attractive the way I am?

No one wants to appear desperate or feel like the foolish one, but is it worth it for the sake of communication or for your own clarity to call out someone you’ve been talking to/dating that they’re sending you mixed signals? I’m a girl but for context I just met a guy who says he’s interested, then doesn’t communicate very well but shows interest when it comes to going on a date. I hear that a man’s actions will show you whether he’s interested or not and to not waste your time and just walk away. But is it that bad to express these feelings and thoughts to the other person? Are you really making a fool of yourself if you’re asking for clarity? For me it’s really hard to let go of something, especially if I have to make the conclusion on my own that they’re just not that into you. Last night I let him know I’m free after 2 pm today and asked where he’d want to meet. He said perfect and he’ll let me know in the morning. It’s almost 2 pm and he still hasn’t texted. I definitely don’t want to be the one to reach out again. Yet I’m having such a hard time letting go and accepting that he’s not going to reach out. Finding it difficult to walk away without saying anything.

I could use some outside perspective because I’m not sure if I’m overthinking this.
I (24F) matched with a guy (M24) on Hinge months ago. We’d talk on and off, but he was always a very dry texter. Eventually the conversation would die, then one of us would reach out again later.

A few months later I was feeling spontaneous and texted him first, telling him I thought he was really cute and that we should go out sometime. He seemed interested, agreed immediately, and was actually asking questions and showing initiative.
The thing that confused me was that when the day of our first date came around, he hadn’t texted me at all. The last message between us was a pretty dry response from him that I had left on delivered for a few days. I ended up texting him asking if we were still on, and he replied, “If you want.”

I didn’t love that answer and almost assumed he wasn’t interested, but since I had also left him hanging for a few days, I gave him the benefit of the doubt and said I was still down. After that, he immediately became much more engaged, asking questions, working out logistics, and helping plan the date. He also drove almost two hours to see me.

The date itself went really well. He paid for everything, we had a great time, he was already talking about future date ideas, and we ended up making out at the end of the night.
The next day he texted me saying, “I’m gonna need you for the whole day this time,” implying he had a bigger second date planned. Because of his work schedule, the soonest we could do it was two weeks later.
For the next week he texted me every day, but he was still pretty dry over text. I figured maybe he’s just not much of a texter because his behavior in person was completely different.

Now the second date is supposed to be this Saturday. The problem is that he left me on read on Monday and hasn’t texted me since. He also hasn’t given me any details about this “all-day” date he supposedly planned.
Part of me wonders if this is going to be like the first date where I have to be the one to reach out and confirm. The difference is that before the first date we’d never met, whereas now we’ve already gone out and he was the one talking about future plans.

Would you reach out and ask if Saturday is still happening, or would you wait and see if he contacts you first? Does this sound like a bad texter, someone who’s disorganized, or someone who’s losing interest?