u/Southern-Dealer-7128

Hi, I am 24F and I’m genuinely very confused about my career right now and overthinking it constantly.

I spent almost 2 years preparing for government exams, but now I’m completely done with that phase because it mentally exhausted me a lot and I honestly feel behind in life now.

After that, I worked in technical recruitment/HR. Financially it felt stable and safe, but after some time the work started feeling repetitive to me. At the same time, I’m genuinely interested in digital marketing and want to explore it properly.

The problem is that I don’t really have proper marketing skills yet or hands-on experience with tools, so I’m barely getting any internships. And even when I do, the stipend is extremely low.

So now I’m confused:

Should I continue in recruitment/HR for financial stability, save money, learn digital marketing alongside it, and switch later?

Or should I directly try getting into marketing now even though the pay and opportunities are uncertain at the moment?

Has anyone here worked in both technical recruitment and marketing, especially in the IT sector? Which one did you find better in terms of growth, salary, learning, and long-term satisfaction?

I’d really appreciate realistic advice because I genuinely feel stuck right now.

Why do some guys completely switch after the initial dating stage?

Like if you’re not genuinely interested in building something serious with me, that’s okay. Attraction fades, compatibility issues happen, people change their minds — I can handle honesty.

What I don’t understand is why some people act SO emotionally invested in the beginning, put in effort, attention, consistency, affection etc., and then suddenly pull back and go:

“but we can still keep things casual” or “we can still talk/hook up/be friends with benefits.”

And it’s confusing because the energy in the beginning feels very relationship-oriented, not casual.

At this point I genuinely dread going on dates because I come back home feeling disappointed and emotionally drained every single time. I’ll think maybe this one is different, and then the same pattern repeats.

I’m starting to wonder:

* am I attracting emotionally unavailable people?

* am I ignoring early signs?

* or is modern dating genuinely just like this now?

Would genuinely appreciate honest perspectives, especially from people who’ve experienced both sides.