r/HingeStories

i have hingeX from past 2 months, and i have noticed a strange phenomena, so the first week and the last week of hingeX subscription i get matches from my comments almost instantly.

if i send a like with a comment or just like their pics, i get matched with them in a day or two, but then after the first week it goes silent and i get matched after say 3-4 days of the initial comment / like. then when the subscription is about to end the pattern starts again, i get a lot of quick matches and all.

i think hingeX just boost your profile for the first and last week so that you keep paying, in between what happens they really dont care or just roll the dice, same with the boost, i tried one hr boost and 24 hr boost, for first 2-3 hrs i got 11 likes, then it got silent and at the last moment i got 2-3 likes.

in one hr i got 2 likes at the last 10 minutes. i dont know if its showing me to the high level profiles with a lot of matches then to people with less but im damn sure once you pay they would try things like this to make you pay more. needless to say im not using premium again.

I honestly never thought I'd post something like this here, but this is insane...That was honestly one of the dumbest things I've ever seen. 😂

If you live in Savannah, GA, and you're an Asian couple (I'm not sure if he's a U.S. citizen or not, but his ethnicity is East Asian)...

If his first name starts with J and ends with h, his last name isn't an Asian surname, his Instagram profile picture is a cat, and his Threads profile picture is a photo of you two together...

Girl, you might want to check on your boyfriend.

I mean, Bro, if you're going to cheat on your girlfriend, at least remove your profile picture before sending follow requests to the girls on Hinge. This is so crazy....

I asked him if that your gf on profile picture on the Hinge, and he blocked me immediately. So i think he might delete the photo on threads NOW. But if he changes his photo last week, then you should watch out for this man.

I told my roommate this, and she said I should post this guy out here. So that what I'm here. His profile on Hinge even said that he is looking for Long-term relationship LOL

I'm not posting this out of spite. Bc I've never met this guy in person.
I genuinely just don't want other girls to get hurt. I believe everyone deserves someone who loves them sincerely!!!

Why are the people who are genuinely looking for true love always the ones who end up getting hurt?

I've had it happen multiple times already. And they're not guys who have the IG handle in their profile, I instantly swipe left on those. Not interested in becoming just another follower to boost their ego.

But I don't understand the "normal" (as in: not wannabe influencers) men who don't seem to be trying to grow a following? Is it just more convenient to talk over there?

I'm just confused, maybe some guys here know the reason behind this?

Hello, currently I have been getting some matches on hinge, we hit off first 2-3 days move conversation to whatsapp but there has never been a to and fro conversation, just went for 2 dates with a girl which were good(nothing physical) but now she doesn’t seem interested. Same with other matches, I am good looking and serious. Should I text less frequently? or reply late and match her tone of responses? or call her? don’t be harsh please help a guy out here.

Have been single now just over a year-and I dip in and out of dating apps, tend to find Hinge better to use. I’ve just had two dates in the last year and both times I have thought the dates have gone well with great conversations and humour only to get you are a nice guy but don’t feel a connection/spark etc. I had a date recently where in the buildup prior to the date the text exchanges were going well and we met up as agreed where I made general chat/conversation which I thought was flowing well and after the walk it’s cut short and plans are made to go home instead of the drink. I felt like I perhaps talked too much but I did also try and ask her questions and throw in occasional compliments, just wasn’t given much to work with at times. I know this does come across like a bit of woe is me type thing but I just wish there was a better way of meeting someone than through apps-I do have sport interests but this hasn’t helped either.

I am a 28f with borderline, PTSD, and treatment-resistant depression. We decided dating didn’t align with my “life worth living goals” (I have been in dialectical behavioral therapy for around two years now) which include getting more established in my career, self-care, mental health, and physical health. I also have trouble setting boundaries with men who display red flags at this point in time because of my trauma.

I am starting a new job very soon that I am very excited about! I’m looking forward to making a difference at this job, meeting coworkers and making connections with them, and growing professionally.

I am really excited that I finally deleted these apps because it’s just not what is good for me right now. I encourage anyone else to do the same if it doesn’t align with your current goals for yourself.

So long, and thanks for all the fish! 🐬

I'll go first... I was in the 10th grade and I liked this guy, and i thought it was a brilliant idea to message him and tell him... so I did my full name and the classes we shared... bad idea. He said and his words... "im kina in a relationship rn but i appreciate you honesty", just like that, no punctuation at all... I said oh yea its cool I just wanted you to know, then proceeded to delete my messages and block him.

Hey guys, I legit feel awful because this guy seems sweet and he’s really cute! We set up a date for tomorrow but the more we’ve talked the more info that has come out and he low key lied on his profile about his profession..

I feel terrible but I don’t think we’re a match considering I’m a medical doctor, super ambitious, type A and pretty academic (plays violin, loves classic literature and art museums etc)

The more we talked he told me he had a period in which he was homeless and I just feel absolutely terrible because he does seem like a sweet guy but I don’t think our lives align in the long run unfortunately, I’m currently looking to find my husband

I also feel incredibly guilty going out and letting him pay for even a coffee which isn’t great, I feel like the right thing is to just be up front about me not thinking we’re a match but I feel like an absolute dick

Is it better to go on the date and then blame it on a romantic spark?

I don’t know what to do guys, I was fine dating someone that wasn’t a doctor or something crazy like that but I don’t think it’s a right fit to go with someone that’s unemployed :(

Update: Texted him that we’re not a right fit and he responded super kindly and I actually cried cause I feel TERRIBLE, but yea I think it was the right move, wishing him the best!

I think being the eldest daughter and a doctor has always put me in a position to want to help others to the point I sometimes overextend myself so I’m working on having more self control over that )-:

After getting all kind of ghost swiping i realised this something not meant for me.
Will be focusing things I wanted to do.
Thanks for the all support in this

The person who almost ended me is on hinge lying to women. He was just released from prison and has to disclose his crimes to potential partners as part of his DOC conditions. He wasted no time. Be safe out there!