r/HingeStories

You have to pick and choose the advice you get from posting a profile review. People on here don’t know you and don’t know what your type is, so gotta pick and choose to do what people say. For example I had a woman tell me that a picture of me in uniform (Marine corps), holding a cat and flipping the bird was a horrible picture because it gave “edgy teenage”. I didn’t listen and it ended up being my most liked picture. I was then told only “trashy women” would like that picture and she was also wrong I had all sorts of women with all different kinds of styles fawning over the uniform, the cat, and how handsome I looked (I’m 5’5-5’6). Moral of the story is, just make sure your profile is still YOU. It’s not about the number of matches you get it’s about the quality of matches you get. I’d rather have 5 likes with people who I can actually hold a conversation with rather than 100 matches of people who don’t interest me at all. We all know dating apps are geared towards women and men that fall into a category of “conventionally attractive”. But as a man who’s 5’6 (5’5 on a bad day) I wanna try to stress that, women care a lot less about looks and height as some of you think. Be yourself and curate your profile over time to reflect that and you’ll be much more successful. I promise you! And get off the internet it’s killing your confidence!!!!

I just got back from the worst date ever. He was pretty cute but brought up his eX 20 minutes in. I brought up that I’m a nurse and he said that he had a ex that was a nurse that lived in the same town as me I thought it was strange, but things were going downhill quite quickly. while we were on the date I said oh it sounds like you must miss her or something you keep bringing her up as a joke, and he said “no she’s crazy. She keeps calling me and I keep blocking her.” I just said ok. Although the date was over in my head, i decided to just continue with him.

then after this drove to a spot by the water and we sat in the car for a little bit and then he starts bringing up marriage and asking how many kids I want so I told him I would wanna get married one day to somebody and I want kids. and then after this he tries to kiss me and then I kissed him back because whenever and then he starts trying to grab my boob and touch my crotch so I moved his hand. and he says that he only does that to girls he wants to marry, and then after that, I asked him to drive me back to my car and on the way back to my car he was saying that he thinks I don’t like marriage. I don’t like kids. I don’t like anything and I said no I do like marriage and I do like kids, but I don’t get intimate with somebody and two hours after knowing them and then he kept going on and on how I don’t like him and I don’t know, but I think that might be the worst daye I’ve ever been on or maybe one of the top 5.

Also when I asked why he chose this spot to meet at, he tells me because him and his ex used to live in the area together. Like bro???

When I got out of the car I said "thank you for everything, see ya later" and he says "I hope". When I got out of the car he speeds away. Like what🤣

I went on about two dates with this guy I met on hinge a few weeks ago. We talked over the phone and had good conversations, the first date went well and he wanted to go on a second date about a week later when I would be back in town. We went on the second date and things were going well, I started back at school a few days after I saw him and he wanted to come up to where i am at school and see me. I thought that would be fine considering this would be our third time hanging out and we text a lot. Well I could tell he was starting to pull back and not seem as interested as he initially was before. I asked him about it and he basically came to the conclusion that we were not compatible, so i wished him the best and we went our separate ways. However, he watches every instagram story I post and we do not follow each other on the app. I am just confused as to why he is lurking on my social media especially after he was the one to tell me he didn’t think we were compatible.

TW: Gore discussion

Twice now I've stumbled upon profiles that list their careers as veterinarians and, while the rest of their profiles are completely fine, these people put a picture of them just straight up operating on an animal, open wounds, blood, all of it within full view. One of them even had blood spatter on their outfit... and was looking up at the camera and smiling.

To a degree I can understand the thought process that goes into posting a picture like that. They're trying to share a significant portion of their life and want to filter people who don't have a tolerance for stuff like that. But like... wouldn't you think the thought might cross their mind that a pretty significant portion of the population is NOT cool with involuntarily being subjected to animal gore? Plus, unless their future partner is also a surgeon, there's basically zero chance their partner would be in the surgery room hanging out while they're performing surgery. So what even is the point of trying to filter people by gore tolerance if their partner, in all likelihood, would never be joining them while operating on someone's pet??

Like there's no practical way to know there's a gore jumpscare incoming since Hinge selects which profiles you see and you cannot filter by profession. So I have basically no control over whether or not a gore pic is about to cross my screen (unless I automatically skip people in any medical field). It's just so wildly inappropriate to me to have a gore pic on your profile. Just say you're a veterinarian and ask your matches if they're cool with seeing blood if it means that much to you.

Anyways, sorry for the rant. This is just the second time I've been involuntarily subjected to pics like this and it's genuinely upsetting to me. And for lack of a better term, I think this behavior is completely unhinged.

Please help someone need someone to review my hinge profile, I dont get any likes at all🙃

Hi Guys! It’s me reporting from denmark. For context: argentinian, 34 years, trying to find a LTR in this pond of poop called going on dates on Hinge in Copenhagen being a latin and chubby short girl.
I matched with a guy -dane- and he told me that was looking for a LTR, we had a really nice talk on Hinge, he was flirty and telling me im cute, and set up a date right away, which was great because I’m exhausted of dealing with these men that are on dating apps but wont date.

He have a lot in common and are politicaly aligned, we talked A LOT and I could feel he was engaged, However, the guy dont drink alcohol and I didnt drank too, and it’s hard for me to flirt being sober. He told me I’m hard to read and i havent felt any sexual xhemwstry, even though I really wanted to kiss him, but I’m too shy to do that being sober.

Late that night, he sent me a text asking if i got home safely and told him that i wanted to see him again. He told me yes, but i sense he wasnt convived.

How you guys feel if a girl invites you out? I’m
Giving desperate vibes? I’m so tired of pretending not to be interested, i asume i will find out sooner or later but guys what do you think????????

Just wanted to get some different perspectives preferably females. I’m 31m and went on a date with 27f

Went on a first date with a girl, thought the date went pretty well. Went well enough to where I dropped her off at home after. The next day, I did jump the gun
and asked if I could see her again that day before she left town that night. (For context she ended up living 2 hours away but said she comes to my town pretty frequently)

she said “i think i have too much going on today but I would still love to get together again soon” I responded saying I’d love to and asked when she will be back in town.

Now that last message I received from her was sat and it’s Tuesday now.

Worth double texting or just let this one go? 😔

Planning to delete my hinge soon, or pause my profile cos I’m tired is swiping X🤣

But I wanted to see if anybody has had luck with these apps? If yes, how many dates have you gone on from hinge, and umm are you guys getting likes/matches constantly? And are they people y’all like? (The people that like your profile)

Can anyone help me with a profile review?
Cant post my pics here online dm pls🫠

Got matched with a cute girl, a lot of similar interests. 2 days into talking, she drops the bombshell that none of the photos are hers and it was all AI generated. My heart aches a bit but I'm mostly just pissed how inhumane people are playing with feelings.

Is it normal that I pay for the guy I'm seeing, the whole hotel pricing, each time he asks me to book.
Which I'm kinda running low on money. He pays 20 for the food but I pay 90 for a hotel, I'm 23f he's
25m. He complains he has to drive 30mins there and back. He wants the hotel for some time together and he's usually the one asking to meet. I asked him yesterday if he considers himself my boyfriend and he said not yet but we're getting there and it's still early stages. (We been seeing each other for 4 months). Whenever I say I love you, he completely ignores it. Yeah he has more income than me, he's a plumber and I'm in a warehouse. I asked him if he's seeing anyone else and he said no, but I feel as if he's lying just to keep my around or somewhat. Because he's always checking out other girls. He also asked to go to a swingers club and keeps asking for a threesome with one of my friends which I said no to. He keeps asking to see my parents which confuses me