r/HingeStories

Hello all I need some advice on how to talk to women lol. Just got out of a six relationship and I’m struggling here just a tad I matched with this one woman she had on her profile choose drinks or food. I picked the drink option for next week. She matched with me I said “hey” and for some stupid reason, I said “I see you have horses may I pet them”
Complete moronic response on my part. I told her I suck at this and I’m sorry lol. The correct response would’ve been choosing a bar in the same town that we live. Is this conversation salvageable at all she did not respond and it’s been over a day.

I’m a 38-year-old woman, and I recently had one of the most disturbing dating experiences of my life.
I matched with a man on Hinge whose profile said he was 45. During our first date, he admitted he was actually 51. He apologized, acknowledged that he had lied about his age, and asked me to give him a chance to earn my trust.
I decided to give him that chance.
Over the next ten days, we went on dates, went hiking, became intimate, and communicated frequently. He was extremely affectionate, constantly expressed his interest, and made plans to see me again.
Then, after a day of affectionate messages, he suddenly stopped communicating.
Two days later, he sent me a shocking message accusing me of repeatedly slapping and pinching his face during our dates.
I was completely stunned. I categorically deny these accusations. I never did anything remotely like what he described.
I told him I had no idea what he was talking about, respected his decision to end things, and blocked him.
Around the same time, my Hinge account was banned. I submitted an appeal, but Hinge upheld its decision and permanently banned me. I also lost access to other Match Group dating apps, including Tinder and OkCupid.
To make matters worse, my account on The League, which I had maintained for approximately five or six years, was also removed.
I suspect this man may have submitted false reports against me, although I have no confirmation that he reported me or caused the bans.
I contacted the dating platforms but received no meaningful explanation of the alleged violations. I also contacted local police, who told me they considered it a relationship matter and suggested seeking a protective order if appropriate.
I have now submitted a complaint to the FBI’s Internet Crime Complaint Center (IC3) to document my concerns.
What frightens me most is that this man knows where I live and could potentially find where I work. After receiving accusations about events I say never happened, I feel deeply unsettled about what else might happen.
I understand that dating platforms must take safety reports seriously. But what protections exist for users who believe they have been falsely accused? How can someone defend themselves when the platform won’t explain the allegations or provide an opportunity to respond?
Has anyone experienced a similar situation involving alleged false reports, permanent bans across Match Group apps, or unsuccessful appeals?
Were you ever able to get your account reinstated or obtain a meaningful review?
I would genuinely appreciate hearing about your experiences and any practical advice.

Ok so I matched with this girl on hinge about over a week ago , the extent of the conversation was hi how are you , I said I was good she said she was tired bc she was working nights I asked what she does and got no response until a couple days after when she asked me when I was free and if I wanted to go on a date , I said yes she picked the cafe and day I confirmed and she gave me her Instagram .

I followed her she followed me back but there’s been no conversation at all besides this . For reference im also talking to a guy I matched with on hinge and have plans to meet up , we have been talking non stop and I feel like we match eachothers vibe because we’ve actually been speaking .

I was saying that maybe she’s just one do those people that prefer to talk in person instead of over text but she spams her main instagram stories with vids of herself and texts so I think she is quite a social online person .

What do I do? What do u guys think ??

So we start the evening by going to a cafe and playing some chess (her idea)

We ended up leaving the cafe, as they were closing early and we decided to finish the game at my place

After we finished, she said she wanted to go for a walk and check out the party avenue by the university.

We got there after 30mins of walking and chit chatting. During our chat she mentioned she’s in AA and a recovering alcoholic; already in my mind I’m thinking ok…. Let’s see how the night goes

So we get to party central, and she says let’s go to this club and enjoy the ambiance, I said aight let’s go

We pretty much spend 1 hour jumping from club to club and checking out the vibe.

Then she runs into some friends she knows, and we all end up going to this after hours restaurant for a bite

After that’s all said and done, she says to me “I think I’m gonna go home with that dude, they’re drinking at his place after” (random guy that was with her friend group)

After all that, I’m thinking wtf? So I say aight I’m heading home, best of luck.

Then her friends come up to me and say “yeah she’s not going with us, can you take her home?”

So I call us a Uber and take her home, we spend a few minutes chatting outside her building and she says “tonight I was fun but I think I’m gonna go back to my ex, but you’ll definitely hear back from me!”

Bruh

My match said I’m the only person they’re talking to and love bombed me for quite a while and has now gone mia. I see that their location changed on hinge. I want to know if this is something they did themselves or if it auto updated. And if it did auto update, do you have to open the app for it to update, or does it keep changing as you move?

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