u/---monstera---

Hello.

I work in an environment that is toxic (in a restaurant). Some people really like gossiping constantly, make passive aggressive jokes, tease, provoke etc.

I don't take it personally. What they think of me, I don't care. I also understand very well why they behave a certain way.. however, their behaviour still hurts me because they demand my attention. They keep spewing negativity at everything, at me, other members of staff, at guests, and I absorb it. If I try to stay neutral, they pick up on that, they are pretty sensitive themselves and try to over compensate my neutrality by being extra nice (in a fake away).

I wish I could be completely indifferent to them. But I am a very sensitive person and I pick up so much on their negativity.

I know that they can be annoying but do you realise what being selfish means?

They always put their lives on the line for strangers and innocents. They sacrifice everything.

I bet people who say this, do nothing selfless ever.

I can't believe people are so judgemental of who should be a group of genuinely good women.

Hello. I left Italy when I was 18. Moved to the UK. Stayed there many years, moved to Australia 3 years ago.

My visa situation in Australia is shaky and I'm not sure I'll be able to stay long term, otherwise, I would.

I'm starting to think about where to move in the eventuality I get kicked out and I'm considering going back to Italy... However I'm worried about money.

I work in hospitality, and right now I'm working at a very fancy restaurant. In the high season I bring home AUD6k+ minimum.

I'm also a psychotherapist and I'm trying to build an online practice, but I'm only allowed to work within the British framework.

I'm worried that in Italy there won't be any jobs, not well paid, or that they will take the piss.

I got so used to being treated fairly, that I'm worried about all the dodgy stuff that happens in Italy (I'm from the south).

How's the situation there now? What's a good city?

For reference my favourite city is London, however I live on the beach now in Melbourne and I'm looking to move somewhere where I can at least see a good sunset every day.

Also, I'm considering Florence to do the Academy of Art but it costs a lot and it's hard to get in so not sure about it.

Before someone says "oh but they were teenagers before bla bla bla it was always about American culture" please don't. I'm sick of this narrative.

The show before was portraying a SPECIFIC subset of the population. A population that exists outside of America. It was never about mocking "wokism", feminism, politics, women or anything really.

The show was never a comedy or a satirical piece. The show was a profound exploration of people's traumas and how they impact them. It was a teenage drama, yes, but it had depth.

Now, the show is trying to poke fun at American culture. It's pretty much a massive meme that is trying to rage bait audiences.

It thinks it's being smart but really is not good satire to be honest.

I think it's a very odd and selfish direction Sam decided to take. It's like he just wanted to make a commentary on American culture and thought "what's the best way to reach the widest audience?".

The work is also meta now. He's clearly hinting at SS's controversies and with Jacob, he's just dumbed down his character as fan service. To get revenge on him.

Also, I don't get why in the promotion there was an emphasis on religion... Because the spiritual aspect is nowhere to be found.

Before it was magical realism. Now it's satirical comedic surrealism.

Although it's not funny

Hello.

I have chest tightness and tense stomach 24/7. I think it's anxiety/stress related despite the fact my mind is not anxious. I have some worries like everyone else but I'm the most stable, happiest I've ever been and I don't think my mind is the problem. I think my body is just stuck in a flight or flight mode.

I'm generally very sensitive to bodily sensations anyway.

I'm attending weekly vipassana meditations and I find the physical pain is distracting and I'm getting very upset I may need to take minimum SSRIS or even xanax/valium to feel better.

Do you think this type of meditation is beneficial for my situation or should I stop?

Thank you

I want to learn more about wavelengths and what colours are from a scientific point of view but I want to learn the neuroscience around it too

So a book that talks about wavelengths and how they work but also the neuroscience behind how we perceive colour.

Something digestible...

I wrote this as a comment but I wanted to see what other people think...

The whole money storyline makes no sense to me.

Cassie apparently grew up poor, so she wasn’t raised to be spoiled. Fine, people can change, but there was never really any focus on money in previous seasons, so it feels very out of the blue. And even if we say she became more spoiled after being with Nate, she’s still more privileged than most, so I don’t really get why she’s constantly complaining about money. Besides the fucking flowers that Nate don't want to pay for lol

Even if we ignore all of that, the money issue is just such a boring direction for their dynamic.

They literally could have done anything else. What would have been way more interesting is exploring something like a Stepford wife kind of dynamic. Like Cassie becoming completely dependent on Nate, losing herself trying to be the perfect girlfriend/wife. He treats her like a doll, like someone to control, and over time it turns into something more clearly abusive. Then eventually she wakes up and leaves. Maybe Maddy is the one helping her? It could be cathartic? The power of women coming together?Instead of playing this revenge high school drama.

That would have actually explored codependency and domestic abuse in a way that fits both of their characters, and it would’ve been so much deeper. All the creative lighting from Season1 and 2 could have been employed with a storyline like this. Maybe a lot of dark scenes, red lights. Maybe duller colours to reflect loliness. Shots that make you feel claustrophobic.

Instead we got not 1, not 2, but 3 different groups of gangsters for no reason.

Also they could have done some flashbacks on what happened the past few years.

The Rue storyline could have been completely different if they simply said Laurie was caught and arrested, so Rue was safe. Instead of being a pimp maybe now she would do something more realistic/interesting.

Stop justifying the shitty lighting because they are adults lolol or the shitty writing.

This season is lazy af

All the men they date are so handsome, kind, and super in love with them. They all want serious, committed relationships with the susters.

Where are these men in real life?!? Lmao

Even Cole who is a demon and fucked up, had good intentions and really was obsessed with Phoebe. Even helped her after he died.