u/Eguurl3333

I’m asking this genuinely and based on my own experiences, not because I’m trying to claim that white people don’t experience or participate in racism. Obviously they do, and I’m not denying the history or reality of racism against Black people and other minorities.

But something I’ve noticed online is that when a white person makes an openly racist comment about Black people, I very often see other white people arguing with them, calling them racist, or telling them that what they said isn’t okay. But when I come across Black people making degrading generalizations about white people or white women, I rarely see other Black people in those same spaces confronting them. Sometimes the replies even join in or treat it like a joke.

A recent experience made me think about this more. I’m European and English isn’t my first language, so I joined a Discord server without realizing that “POC” in the description meant “people of color.” At first I actually had really nice conversations with people there. We even discussed things like American slavery, racism and Thanksgiving, and I was openly critical of the historical treatment of Indigenous and Black people.

Then someone asked where i was from and i said im slavic.

The atmosphere completely changed. People immediately started making comments about me being “very pale and blue-eyed”, telling me how awful “my people” supposedly are, and attaching stereotypes and accusations to me simply because of my ethnicity/nationality and appearance. I was genuinely shocked because minutes earlier we had been having completely normal conversations. And those kind of things usually don’t happen in servers with white people, most of the time if a white person treated a black person that way they would be banned. Also in real life, i never encounter other white people having conversations like that about black people, not in my friends circle, family or school.

This also wasn’t the first time I’ve experienced something like this online. I’ve had people who knew virtually nothing about me judge or dislike me simply because I’m white/Eastern European.

So my question is: why does prejudice against white people sometimes seem more socially acceptable in certain online/ real life spaces, and why does there seem to be less pressure to call it out from within those spaces?

I’m not asking this to start a “who experiences more racism” competition or to generalize all Black people. I’m specifically interested in why this dynamic happens and whether other people have noticed it too.

(I wrote this in my native language and translated it in English for better understanding)

Once upon a time, in those two villages humanity was confused as fuck. Nobody knew why they existed, where they came from, why people died or what the fuck was happening in the sky.

Then there were two men with like 3 more braincells than everyone around them. Jesus and Mohammad or whatever. They absolutely hated each other and saw each other as competitors, and both wanted custody of the villagers …. So they started to talk to those dumb ass villagers like “actually ☝️🤓 i know exactly how the universe works, God spoke to ME specifically, and conveniently he also has a whole list of rules for how you should live”…And the villagers were like omg finally someone has the answers😻😻😻😻…

And then the little system started WORKING…. BUUT there was one tiny problem: ✨WOMEN✨

Because how are you gonna keep the whole operation running if women are the actual real deal????? So obviously the lore needed an update: “actually God said MEN are the natural leaders☝️🤓 women just obey please”

But apparently that still wasn’t enough insurance because what if a woman gets a little too educated? Knows medicine and herbs? Questions authority? Has opinions?? And jesus and mohammad were like… Easy fix babe🎀: WITCH 🫵… burn her, stone her, whatever, just PLEASE don’t let her start talking to the other women and make them aware of their power..

……. And BOOOOOM💥 💥 🤯 now the villagers got divided into two fandoms fighting over which man got the exclusive interview with God🥹

Two thousand years later and the fandom war is still going. Nobody has met the author but everybody SWEARS their edition is cunntier than the other🎀💗💗

Hi guys))) I haven’t played sims in a while and i really miss it, but anyone who plays with a lot of mods probably knows exactly what’s about to happen when I open the updated game after a long time not playing it😭

Basically, my mods are old and outdated. Is there anything that can update them automatically? I remember there being an app for this, but i think you had to update each mod individually.

Is there any app or tool now that can update all your mods at once, or at least make the whole process easier?

Hi, i have been dating this one guy since march this Year, we met on hinge and started dating in real life, im ukrainian refugee living in the west and he is spanish living and working next to the country im currently in which i wouldn’t like to mention… we live 60km away from each other which isnt bad, and mostly meet during the weekend since both of us are busy during the week. Our dates were very normal, i did get expensive gifts and went to very nice places with him but i didn’t care enough to question it, he doesn’t even own a car here and whenever he would pick me up he would either rent a car or take it from a friend of him jusr so i dont need to take the train)) very cute. He is also a very humble guy, dresses normal and not noticeably wealthy, which you would automatically think he is just a regular guy like anyone else…. until last month when he went back to visit his parents for few day and after he arrived we were on call, during the call i saw a pool and sea view, again i was like yeh in spain people get lucky with sea view, then after like a day, while talking he was like “hold on, my maid is talking to me” and showing me food of what his kitchen chefs cooked….. i was surprised but didn’t want to question it, i just know his parents are surgeons but not about his whole family which seems like a generational wealth … anyways, few days ago he asked me if we would go to italy because his uncle invited us on a boat trip and im a very anxious person and i said maybe another time because right now im not ready to meet your whole family, anyway he went there today, and after he arrived he sent a pic with “im here” and i see a fucking yacht… i was like bro this isnt a boat this is a yacht and he was like “yeh hahaha he owns one”

anyways im still shocked but the main point is…

In a week we are going to Spain together, first time in vacation together and at his home town, eventually i will be meeting his sister dad and mom because he wants me to, but i come from a normal background, yeh im confident but I’m getting very nervous, I’m overthinking and a bit because I’m thinking maybe for some wealthy people my attractiveness and personality isn’t enough when my background is not on the same page as them… so i’m a bit anxious what would their first impression be, since you hear often that super wealthy people are a bit mean and since my family aren’t financially on his level … so i need advice, what do i do, these past days a barely slept from thinking how its gonna be, this is so new to me, i never had an idea that his family could be this wealthy like im so confused finding out about all this so randomly without him ever mentioning directly.

I think many people don’t really understand the real meaning behind Feminism, whenever i talk about my life style, that i prefer the traditional lifestyle i get jumped by people calling me anti feminist. So im making this post to see what’s feminism for you?

Because for me it’s supporting women’s rights to be able to choose freely what they want to be, whether they want a career, or a traditional marriage. So for me feminism means having the right to choose for yourself and not only be equal to men.

I want some opinions on this.

I spent so much time asking myself what i was doing wrong. Why friendships ended, why i was constantly judged, why relationships became toxic and why was i being seen as dumb without even talking. Turns out i wasn’t the problem. Being pretty just comes with a lot more jealousy and projection than people like to admit. And here i’am losing again, and feeling lonely most of the time. The attention i get is just Lust and the friendships i try to build will always end.