Went WAY too far down a rabbit hole of a weird obsession and came out with unexpected answers
I early 40’s F employ a late 30’s M, we’ll call him Dave, and an early 20’s F, we’ll call her Kami.
One day I messaged the whole team needing a response. Nobody was at work. Dave and Kami both responded at a very unusual time for them, within 2 minutes of each other. I mentioned to Dave the unusual hour he text me at, and he said he had an alarm wake him up that he didn’t mean to have set. Did it wake them BOTH up??? Were they together?
The gears in my head started turning! And I became OBSESSED!!!
Kami is a newer hire and Dave had been there for a while. Suddenly Dave gets a new job out of nowhere and cuts his hours to only fill in occasionally. Dave has a history with dating coworkers that hasn’t worked in his favor, so I’m wondering if Kami is the reason for this new job. I’m looking and watching for all signs! My obsession grows!!! I must prove something is going on between the two! Why? Because I’m nosey and my life is boring apparently.
He was a smoker. A few months ago I asked in a round about way why he didn’t quit. In so many words he basically said he loved smoking. Then suddenly, out of the blue, he gave it up. Has Kami inspired this change?
One day he worked his other job and didn’t want to work one of his only remaining shifts the same day, so I gave him the night off. I told him I’d be in (I’m often not on the schedule so they don’t know when I work) since I would be there anyways, I said I could cover him. I mentioned Kami and I could hold down the fort. That’s when I think he realized Kami was also working that night.
Suddenly he messaged me dramatically with a weird story about personal drama and he wanted to come to work! He had never done anything like that before. Made me realize they prob were NOT dating but I was sure he liked her. I think the earlier messaging at the same time was just a fluke. The theory may have changed but I’m all in at this point. I’m going to prove he’s at least into her and that’s why all the changes and weird behavior.
There are so many signs that he likes this girl! He keeps offering to come in and help whenever she is in, but not when she’s not!!
His very last scheduled shift was with her. I thought I had removed him from the schedule! He said he worked his other job in the morning but if I modified the time he could still come in. I said I’d be onsite so I could cover and he could have it off or come in, because I had other things to do onsite, so it didn’t matter. He came in, had to be with his love interest, right?
During that shift I had a third party (not an employee) who was in the building and knows about my theory! They told me Dave and Kami were standing close and whispering to each other on that shift in the employee area. They said that the two seemed to be really cozy!!!
That’s it!!! I was going to prove it!!!! I spent 30 mins watching CCTV footage of that shift to see if I could see what they were doing in the employee area when they were alone. Was there any slight touching, flirting, laughing, or canoodling???? Maybe it’s one sided! Maybe you can see him paying her a lot of attention. Either way, I WAS going to prove my point.
That was the most disappointing and slightly embarrassing thing I’ve ever watched (I’m also on the CCTV footage). Nothing about their body language when they were alone said they were dating or he was interested. They barely seemed like even friends at all. She’s on her phone half the time. Barely any smiles from either of them. No joking. Every time they walked past each other there was a lot of space given by both parties. They do stand/sit close a couple times but I could tell it was for training (the third party didn’t know about the training).
I on the other hand come into the employee area at one point and tell them both a wild story with my arms flailing, face animated, looking like a mad woman. I had no idea I looked like that when I told stories!
When I originally told the story I didn’t notice it at the time, but in the CCTV footage you can clearly see he’s facing me and smiling and laughing the whole time. My wild weird story got 1,000x more of a reaction out of him than his entire shift with her. Wtf???? Maybe he’s insanely good at hiding it??? I was so disappointed!!! I just didn’t see anything!!!
So not only was I probably wrong about them/him, but I also need to calm down when telling stories because all that happened in trying to prove I was right, is that I realized I look like a nut job when I’m interacting with my employees. 🤦♀️ But at least this old lady can entertain my employees with my wild antics! 😂 So there is that!
Now I have nothing to speculate on. He’s pretty much gone. And I’ll never know why he was so obsessed with her when he didn’t show it at all!!!!