u/Spiritual-Bar-2363

I have 2 kids. 12/14. (I coparent mine 50%)

My bf has 2 kids 12/15.(he has his 80%)

we’ve been together 2 years.

He has started talking about moving in together and blending

Im anxious afraid and terrified that blending will compromise my mental health, emotional stability, financial security and the current positive and peaceful environment I am living and raising my kids in!

also we have many issues with one anothers kids.

His kids hate my kids & my kids hate his kids!

Hes uncomfortable around my kids & Im very uncomfortable around his kids!

His exwife is also very High Conflict Controlling and Demanding!

Looking to hear from anyone who has blended with 2 sets of teenage kids and been able to make it successful?

or lessons, that I could learn from?

How do you live with a Partner who you love but dislike his kids.

His kids are both special needs and very Challenging Behaviourally . (12&15)

I have compassion for his situation but i lack the patience to support him with his kids!
I have 2 of my own kids, but Me nor my Kids what to be around His kids.

How do you navigate this?

How do you handle significant financial disparity when blending?

My kids (12&14) are very financially privileged from their fathers side!

They are trust fund kids and will not need to worry about financial stability in life.

I am very grateful for this as I am not, I work full time to make ends meet and live pay check to pay check.

My boyfriend is very jealous of my kids wealth and has mentioned several times he hates that my kids are rich and his kids are poor.

His kids are (12&15)

He is not saying he wants me to financially contribute to his kids to even out the financial disparity. I disagree as my kids trust money is not mine, but their fathers.

I also don’t want to hold any financial responsibility for supporting his kids, as I am already managing supporting my kids!

has anyone else encountered this situation?