10 year Itch
Those who survived the ten year mark with your military husband, how’d yall do it? My husband does not want to do counseling, and I am drowning. He’s not deployed at the moment but this man is carrying the most depressed, possessive energy in our house daily. I tried to tell him he hurt my feelings today by kick/nudge-ing me at the gym today (I don’t like the idea that he didn’t like wave a hand or put himself in my eye view) to get my attention. He accused of “staring at someone” in a nearly empty gym. Now he’s saying I’m “twisting” things because I know I’m wrong. But this isn’t the first time he’s snapped at me at the gym. We’ve been together since 2013. But we can’t talk, about anything I feel, ever. I’m sorry I’m probably just venting but I’m so overwhelmed trying to show up happy, upbeat, sexualizing myself (even when I don’t feel like it), open to anything he suggests. This is not working. He’s so unhappy. I don’t believe he’s cheating, he’s just truly unhappy with life and it’s miserable.