Love my job, hate the mouths with it.
I’ve been doing lashes and esthetics full time for 10 years. Only over the last 2 years I’ve noticed how much my clients drain me. I understand the beauty industry is unique and I’m a little bit of a therapist to people and that’s fine!
I’ve just noticed in particular the last 2 years clients I’ve had (new or for years) have no shame or thought in what they want to talk about. I’m really good at not letting it get to me but it’s been SO draining recently. I’m sure how dark the world has gotten is the reason but it’s like people forgot about shame.
People can have their opinions. That’s fine. But when it’s every other client telling me the most unhinged not ok morals and values I’m at a loss. It’s really starting to affect me. I’ve always been blunt and have no problem changing topics and asking not to talk about certain things but holy shit people do not care.
I had 2 clients on the same day where one was being horribly racist calling people of color disgusting and the other saying Elisabeth smart isn’t a victim and she’s a horrible person. Like WTF!? I’ve had these clients for YEARS and never have heard anything like this from them.
On top of that, the way my clients have treated me and how they speak to me has gotten so bad. The backhanded compliments, lack of respect for me, my time and my policies. I’ve been having some serious and scary health issues. I’ve told most clients to just make them aware because I’ve had to get surgeries and cut back and make some changes for my health. Mostly just to let them know why I have to prioritize these big changes. I’ve kindly told them I’m ok and I prefer not getting into it further then I’ve explained because I’m still really sensitive about it all still. The amount of clients that just give unrealistic unsolicited advice is insane. Or the amount that get SO UPSET with me because I have to take time off for procedures and that I don’t work 4-5 12 hour days anymore.
I’m so grateful for my career and the success I’ve had. I’m so grateful for the amazing clients and coworkers I do have. But damn what happened to kindness, respect and compassion.
EDIT: I shut down any comments or conversations anytime someone brings up something not ok or unhinged. And I’m firm about it. That’s what’s been so surprising.
EDIT AGAIN: I should’ve clarified. Not necessarily asking for advice. Just ranting.